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[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

People fight, disagree and cross each other boundaries. Sometimes seriously, sometimes not. That's the hurt I was talking about. It happens in every single relationship at some point. And talking about those moments with people is a useful litmus test.

In a really healthy relationship, those moments don't escalate, simmer or build up, because they're talking about and addressed. In an unhealthy relationship, even the little ones build up over time, because they're not addressed.

And if you are talking to someone about one of those moments, and they always want to ignore it, push back against it or simply change the topic, then that tells you something meaningful about how healthy your relationship with that person is.

[–] MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 1 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Still not the original argument. But please, keep digging.

[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I think this discussion stands out as an example of the types of reactions the post was referring to...

[–] MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 1 points 9 hours ago

I am unbothered by this interaction.

My jimmies remain unruffled.

Did you get so emotionally invested into this discussion that you feel hurt?