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I'm about 12,950 Kilometers from my spawn point, according to Google Earth. That place is not "home" since I barely have any memories of it, and left the country during primary school.

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[–] BackgrndNoize@lemmy.world 3 points 32 minutes ago

I'm about 8036.68 miles , 12933.78 kilometers from where I was born and where I am isn't my home but now it's been so long since I've gone back that I'm not sure it will feel like home if I go back either

[–] lambdabeta@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 hour ago

500km... About 4 hours. Was never home though.

[–] olafurp@lemmy.world 4 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

5284km this place feels like home because this is where I've slept for the last 4 years.

[–] Octavio@lemmy.world 4 points 4 hours ago

About 8,100 miles, as the crow flies.

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 3 points 5 hours ago

I live around 40 miles from where I was born.

My home is where I am and who I'm with now. My spawn point is somewhere I managed to survive long enough to stage my successful escape.

[–] Donjamos@lemmy.world 4 points 10 hours ago

After trying out another country (Switzerland) and other cities in Germany (Berlin and Kiel) im back in Hamburg where I spawned. Yea other places are nice as well but no matter where I went I liked it here more. But we are known for thinking our town is the most beautiful place on earth.

[–] Jiggle_Physics@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

roughly 2200 miles, and no

Farthest away I have ever lived from where I was born? About 5500 miles. Again, neither were home. Don't know if I have a place that is really a home no matter where I am, because I have moved around a lot in my life.

[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 4 points 15 hours ago

~18 hours away. Yes, where I'm at currently is definitely home.

[–] panathea@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 15 hours ago

About 250 meters, as the crow flies. My wife, as well. It is no longer a hospital, though.

[–] simonced@lemmy.ml 4 points 15 hours ago

I was born in France, now I live in Japan. France is not home anymore.

[–] tryagain@lemmy.ml 2 points 13 hours ago

I'm almost at the antipode of my spawn point but I moved here late enough in life that, while the rest of my household call here home, I still think of my birthplace as home. Some days it's hard.

[–] moseschrute@lemmy.world 5 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

Spawn point LOL

About 1-1.5 hours

[–] Azal@pawb.social 2 points 14 hours ago

375 miles away from spawn point, but my tutorial zone (where I actually grew up) was 215 miles away from there and 215 miles away from my current home point.

I lived in the city of my birth for a bit for a job, fucking hated that city, it was never home. Lived off and on where I grew up, and now have lived in my current for about 10 years.

Where I grew up is a complicated feeling. I miss the Ozark mountains, the flatlands I live in now I don't like despite liking the city. But the area has changed so much and so rapidly it's like coming to the bones of an animal where nature has rapidly overtaken the body and saying that's the animal. It's... recognizable if you squint at it, but it's dead and gone and now something completely different.

I'm not sure if where I live now is "home" still. But if where I grew up was home, I can never go back there. I can live in that place, but the farming town is now a metro that is unrecognizable.

[–] chatokun@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 16 hours ago

I don't feel like ~~doing the math~~ googling it, but I was born Brooklyn, NY, USA. Currently a few miles outside Atlanta, GA, but my journey here takes me up and down the east coast, plus a place further south. I can't really think of NY as home because I've only lived there maybe 1.5 years at most, and 1 of those was as an infant.

At 1 my family moved to GA, at 2 they moved to Saint Vincent and the Grenadines (fathers home country), where my first memories are from. At 7 my mom left said father over his repeated cheating, so we moved back to Brooklyn for ~6 months (maybe less) then moved to Virginia until I hit 17 when I graduated highschool. Moved to Florida, lived there for years until 2017 and I moved to GA for a job.

I'm not sure I consider anywhere other than where I am now "home." I have fond memories of each place, but they just feel like phases of my past life, like elementary(well, 4 different elementary), middle, or highschool. I don't consider any of those schools any more of a school I went to than the others, and I generally treat "home" the same. It's just where I live now.

I also don't fully identify with any ethnic group either. I spoke without an accent in the island so never fully integrated, and then in the US I didn't quite have the same lived experience there either.

[–] dfi@lemmy.nz 3 points 17 hours ago

12005km from my place of birth where I still have family. But home is where I live

about a 58 hour walk right now but at timed I am >10,000 miles out

[–] shapis@lemmy.ml 2 points 17 hours ago

Just checked on the map. There's a stretch of about 11 miles that I consider to be home. I lived most of my life smack in the middle of that stretch .So about 5 and a half miles radius?

[–] trijste@lemmy.ca 3 points 20 hours ago

Feels like they langoliers in my mind

[–] Larsa@lemmy.world 2 points 20 hours ago

A few hundred miles. And no i dont belong in this world.

[–] NotSafeForWorld@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 20 hours ago

13,245 km from spawn point, but home is always where my wife and cats are

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 3 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago)

Less than 200 miles. But I grew up about 400 miles farther. And no.

[–] aesthelete@lemmy.world 3 points 23 hours ago

Thousands of miles and no.

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 2 points 22 hours ago

6.5 km from my appartment to the hospital I was born in.

I was born in the neighboring city, currently live in the district that is closest to said city. However I grew up in a village 90km from here. My parents moved out of the city when I was 2. I lived in several different cities, even on a different continent for a while. A couple of years ago I moved here for a job and 5 years ago my now-husband and I found this appartment together which happens to be on the border of our city that is closest to the city I was born in.

[–] stringere@sh.itjust.works 2 points 22 hours ago

I live 2.2 miles/3,5 km from my childhood home but have lived as far away as 4,383 miles/7.053 km away. Yes, I would consider my hometown as my current home.

38 miles away, but it should be noted that since being spawned, I've moved upwards of 3k miles from that point and then returned to my current location many years later.

[–] Aggravationstation@feddit.uk 2 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago)

My house is about 2 miles away from the hospital where I was born but only a couple of meters from the spot where the house my parents lived in when I was born used to stand, which means there's a good chance I can see the spot where I was conceived from my upstairs window.

[–] Zatore@lemmy.zip 60 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Current, about 300 meters. I live in an apartment a block over from the hospital I was born at.

[–] IndiBrony@lemmy.world 29 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Damn, got me beat. I'm a little over 2 miles away.

I think we're the two closest, though!

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[–] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

About 5,743 miles (9,227 km) from my spawn point, and no, it's not home, although I wish it were now that the US has decided to be fascist. I was born in an American army hospital in Stuttgart, Germany.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I am less than a mile from the hospital I was born in. Like some middle ages peasant.

The city grew up with me, or I grew up with it; when I was young there was not much to do and it was quite violent. Through my life it has become vibrant and safer, not that I had anything to do with it. Now there is so much to do, beautiful parks, concerts, downtown came back to life.

I have visited other places, for months at a time before I had kids, and shorter trips after. But here actually is home, it's funny. I wouldn't have dreamed it when I was a little kid.

[–] Godnroc@lemmy.world 34 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You can reset your spawn point by sleeping in a bed.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 32 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Spawn Point =/= Respawn Point

[–] Neondragon25@piefed.social 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

you can use the "/setworldspawn" command to change the world spawn point.

Edit - spelling, because autocorrect is great.

[–] HurlingDurling@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I have been about 4500 miles away for most of my life, but I was home sick so I moved closer and I am now only 1500 miles away from spawn.

I live about 6 hours and in the neighboring state from where I was born, though I've also lived further away. It's hard to consider it home - my parents were divorced and living in different states since before I was born, and I've lived with both of them and moved around on my own besides. My mom's the only one left in my home state, but I would never want to live there again because it's deep red and way wrong for me climate-wise.

[–] Hayduke@lemmy.world 25 points 1 day ago (4 children)

~2500 miles. I have no attachments to Ohio, little fond memory, and will likely never visit again. It’s been over 35 years and I intend to make it another additional 35+

No offense to my Ohio peeps, but Oregon feels a wee more comfortable. …when it’s not on fire

[–] pleasestopasking@reddthat.com 20 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Man, I meet so many people who have left Ohio. People love leaving Ohio. In fact, an abnormally high proportion of astronauts are from Ohio. People wanna leave Ohio so bad, they leave earth.

[–] Octavio@lemmy.world 2 points 4 hours ago

I’ve met so many fellow members of the Ohio diaspora that we came up with a saying: Ohio is a great place to be from. Far from.

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[–] josteinsn@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

100km now, but even though i say I’m from there, i have no family and barely any acquaintances left. Still can do the dialect, though, if i make an effort. Usually don’t. And in a couple of years, I’ll move hundreds or thousands of kilometres away. Again.

[–] Aarrodri@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

About 14k km away. Born in Mexico. Reside in Taiwan for now(work).

Oh wow you are now so close to where I was born, it's just across the strait. 😁

[–] JandroDelSol@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

7km, and yes, still home lol

I'm a single digit number of miles from the place I was born, but I do not consider the town it is in to be "home" as it is in a neighboring town.

Other side of the country.

[–] spirinolas@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

I'm about 500 meters from the place where the hospital I was born stood (the building still exists, but it's something else now).

I grew up in this city since my parents moved here before I was born. I also lived here half of my adult life and I'm thinking of leaving.

I have no emotional connection with this city. My family is from a different region of the country and we have a very different culture. My heart is with my parents hometown and I always identify myself with the region autonym.

[–] Shezzagrad@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 day ago

5 miles away from spawn point, the furthest I've lived is 300 miles away but in the same nation, my spawn city is absolutely home to me, even if not ethnically from here, I am very privileged to be born here

[–] Hossenfeffer@feddit.uk 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Currently 7 miles / 11.3 km away, but have lived 3941 miles / 6343 km away.

The fact that I'm now so close again is pretty much pure chance.

[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Maybe 250 miles. While I have “rose colored glasses” about that being a wonderful place to grow up, now it’s all grey monochrome dystopia. The major tech employer left and the town never recovered. Many years later it’s exactly the same, but decayed.

At this point I’ve lived in my current town almost as long, my current region longer. It’s home

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