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egg_irl [CW: Assumes Viewer is Transfem] (transfem.space)
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[-] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 10 months ago

I would like to clarify that the key word here is constantly.

If it happens on and off, such as wanting it one day but not on others that's more in line with genderfluidity or genderflux, where it changes constantly. I want to bring this up because I know that lots of arguments about a person being transfem really tend to squash genderfluidity, typically out of ignorance but sometimes out of transmedicalist belief. Genderfluid people are real and valid, to the people who do it out of ignorance I hope this can be a learning experience to better understand genderfluidity, to people who are transmedicalists, fuck you, who do you think you are trying to decide whether people are valid or not, ~~if anyone isn't valid it's you~~ nvm too far.

Another key thing is that they actually have to want it, I'm adding this because I have seen in r/egg_irl where they try and get people to say it without meaning it, which doesn't make it so. The person has to really want it. Also extends to wanting to present feminine but not identifying as a woman, them wanting to act or present fem doesn't make them a woman, only identifying as one does.

TL;DR It's not as easy or Binary as it seems, every situation is a little bit different and it's important to remember that so one doesn't invalidate people by mistake when trying to help.

[-] pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 10 months ago

Thanks. I've been comfortable hanging out in transfem spaces but not egg ones because memes like this feel... pushy? to me. I'm comfortable as/with who I am and memes like this kinda make me feel like I have to defend what I've figured out/decided on. Idk, they are helping me work out some insecurity by practicing being unbothered by them though, so that's a plus.

[-] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 10 months ago

Yeah that's a big reason I'm not a fan of them, also they tend to create narratives towards Gender Nonconformity that aren't super great.

I think it's important for people to find validation and discover themselves but it shouldn't come at the cost of others (i.e. shouldn't be overly pushy to those who are unwilling, shouldn't go after people for being femboys/tomboys).

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