How am I supposed to make sense of my life getting BETTER during the pandemic? Anyone else have that experience? (lemmy.world)

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Basically for most of my adult life I've struggled to have a life that I truly wanted. Not comparing myself to anyone else, but going from job that let me go to job that let me go. Not making ends meet. I never felt "normal." I always felt like an anomaly.

Then the pandemic hit; while everyone else was panicking and not sure what to do for me it was--at worst--a mild inconvenience; and at the time I was working a retail job (at last feeling like I wasn't going to get fired at the drop of a hat, which was a weird feeling). I was tech freelancing on the side, too, which is where my skill set was.

Then suddenly freelancing took off (I think it was because of the freelancing sites I was on "rotated" me to the top). I was able to quit my job, do freelancing full time. I was able to go on actual dates (since I want to get married). I moved out of my parents place. It was awesome. For once I felt "normal." Again, while everyone was panicking I felt like I was finally going in the direction I had planned, with ease.

Then when everything was going back to "normal," I started to lose the success that I had gained. The clients that I worked for during the pandemic didn't seem interested in continuing working. I've since had to fight every day to get back to what my normal was (which was everyone else's unusual season).

Anyone else feel this? Pre and post pandemic was chaotic, and the pandemic for me felt like I was finally getting somewhere in life. I realize a lot of folks died because of COVID (and many more families split because of it), but it just angers me whenever people talk about the "new normal" when there wasn't a "normal" for me to begin with.

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[-] AWildMimicAppears@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

I feel the same way! Although the beginning of the pandemic was rough.

I get swooped up in my emotions pretty easily, and so the first month or so i was in a serious state of panic. I stopped reading the news daily after that, which helped a lot in stabilizing. And then i realized that my social anxiety issues were getting the space i needed - quite literally. Social distancing made grocery shopping much more doable for me, people didn't want to meet up, and large crowds ... just weren't a thing. I miss that a lot.

[-] figaro@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

Dude honestly pandemic time was great for me. Like I feel terrible for everyone who lost loved ones and got sick, but pandemic/lockdown time was absolutely the best time of my life.

I was getting paid 60% salary to teach one online lesson per week, learned a new language, started eating better, worked out, and made some friends I'm sure I'll know for the rest of my life.

Weird but hey when life gives you opportunities, you take them, regardless of what is happening around you.

this post was submitted on 26 Jun 2023

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