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Daily Discussion Thread: Tue 10 Oct 2023
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Sad news about Cal Wilson. 53 is way too young.
I’m still upset my boss is leaving and I’m not sure why I’m having such a strong reaction :(
I was upset when my boss left as well as we had worked closely together for a good number of years.
I know I was angry at the time when some meetings took place and basically dismissed her and a few days later I cried when one of my co workers asked what was going on and I couldn’t help it.
We’re you close to your boss or had a good working relationship? It’s not I dial if you formed some sort of bond over time.
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I was upset when my old boss finished up. I mean I knew it was coming and it wasn’t like we worked together day in day out. In fact I rotated back and forth between teams. For me it was comfort of having someone there that I trusted.
Edit: Ah, my bad. I just read yesterday’s reply. Being blindsided can take a while to get over.
It literally came out of nowhere! Mine's a small team, first a senior left, and she got replaced with another one and now my boss is going. I think I miss the senior in my team as she really used to look after and help me (given i'm new to the industry. she took me under her wings) but her replacement isn't the same as her, which is ok but this sucks..
Oh, I totally get it. My respect/affection for my boss is because they were just someone who seemed to have me pegged from the get go and without my even noticing, just let me work where I was strongest. To be trusted in certain scenarios is something I value, but I guess I never realised how deeply it mattered and how much it matters to be seen without it needing to be verbalised.
I think it’s an approach a lot more places could/should adopt. Cannot tell you how much I loathe, loathe, loathe reviews. They can get in a bin. I think employees would do so much better if they’re told on the spot things that need to change, be addressed or fixed instead.
Such is life. I’m glad I was honest and let them know how I felt. I hope that it made them feel valued and maybe somewhat validated in the end. They’re onto bigger pastures, but I still miss them.
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For some reason, this came up in my YouTube recommendations.... https://youtu.be/7Uj5b7VATa0?si=tUzrp4fXwzFqcbt0
I'll take it.
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You know how when you feel physically sick and the meds or the hot drink kicks in and you feel momentarily relieved? That's me right now and getting the odd text from a friend and having that moment of connection and safety. Can feel the mind and heart lightening for a second like nurofen for the soul.
I wish this kind of ill feeling was better supported... get a prescription and time off for promoting healthy social connection. Whatever it is I think my next job as an employee will need more of that, either in terms of more time outside of work to foster that or better connections in the workplace.
I wish this kind of ill feeling was better supported
I do wonder whether we'll get to that point. I hope we do. And I wonder whether we'll see advancements enough where we can point to something and say "see, this is what's wrong with me right now". Having something like a sprained ankle or infection is easy - they're visible signs of why we're not physically able to do something. But if there was like a... I don't know... some kind of test that showed a serotonin imbalance (for example), you know?
Yeah, exactly. Of course, mental health is far more nebulous and complex, and cause and effect interactions are not going to be as predictable as with physical ailments. But there is still scope for determining an evidence based, systematic approach to recognising and supporting people's needs. There ARE things that demonstrably help, that might be more apparent from the outside - and it sucks that the onus is very much on the sufferer to carve out solutions and explain everything to others.
It would be so much easier if it was just simple accepted that this happens... that's the one thing that I hold out for is that we'll eventually get to a point in our culture where we no longer actually have to explain ourselves. Thankfully we're moving but it's at a remarkably slow rate, at least slow enough that it feels at times to have stagnated somehow backwards.
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unexpected giggle of the day: Boss entered a bunch of peninsula sites into the worksheet. Cut and pasted most of them. Didn't realise he'd missed the second N
yes I am a four year old.
Once had a real estate agent called Pennisi
Well, were they?
Just perused a bunch of old letters - and I mean like, 20+ years, from when I was in high school. From friends that I no longer speak with. I distinctly remember the giddy feeling of getting mail back then. Found a learner's permit from someone that meant a HUGE amount to me, who gave me their Ls when they got their Ps.
I do have to wonder if they've kept my replies.
Or does it even matter? As fleeting as those moments were, they left a lasting impression on me. They shaped who I was to become. Maybe it's the same for them, maybe it's not.
Oh man you got me thinking about some of this stuff myself. Thank you. There's some good memories in there. As to the question, given you cant control other peoples reactions to stuff I guess its not even worth pondering. You can hope they do, but all that matters is how YOU feel about it.
True. There's no chance of recapturing that moment at all. Only some weird simulacra (which, if pulled off right would create its own moment). But gods! To go back to some of those exact moments. Even the painful ones that, so many years removed seem somewhat trivial yet the scars are still there.
What's interesting is that it's a box of stuff from before I was married, and yet I've still managed to add things over time from when my wife and I were together. Old student cards and metcards with notes written on them and cheap bracelets... So even if the box itself was a time capsule of a personal bygone era, there's been a time leak? It's kind of cool.
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New cars going well. I dont love all the automation and safety stuff though. The lane departure system is really annoying when your swerving to avoid potholes and the car has the nerve to complain that your trying to protect it. But beyond that fuel economy is better than expected and its a lot more comfortable when 3 of us have to go somewhere. And Carplay, maaaan carplay is soo good!
Please give me your positive stories about your cats being spayed. I'm taking Gibson in on Friday and I'm really nervous...
Got all three of ours done at once. We were prepared for dopey, possibly pained kitties.
We got back happy spazzmonkeys who apart from some stitches didn't show any evidence whatsoever they'd been de-narded (and they definitely have been given two females, one male and no further kittens in the decade that followed)
Cat owners, what's your go to wet food? Now there's one mouth to feed I'd like go for something a little fancier than dine.
Applaws house here
Scored like 200 free tins of fancy feast. Still getting through it. Cats seem to enjoy it alright.
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