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Do it for your own reason rule (i.redd.it)

submitted 1 year ago by dramaticcat@sh.itjust.works to c/196@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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[-] corus_kt@lemmy.world 127 points 1 year ago

I know it's a joke strip, but don't worry about being judged at the gym, only the 1% bottom dregs of gym goers do that. Most of us know it's difficult and respect you for trying, we won't bother you unless you might injure yourself.

And that woman is quietly getting jacked af, look that massive back in her last panel

[-] CurlyWurlies4All@slrpnk.net 33 points 1 year ago

I have never had any thoughts about anyone in my gym beyond "I hope no-one heard me fart on that last squat."

[-] BirdyBoogleBop@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 1 year ago

My only thought is "please let the squat rack be free please let the squat rack be free, yay! Squat rack! What's that smell?"

[-] LordAmplifier@pawb.social 12 points 1 year ago

That's the smell of dedication, the smell of a hero who went above and beyond. Inhale it with pride, as you are deemed worthy to follow in their footsteps.

[-] TJmCAwesome@feddit.nu 81 points 1 year ago

This idea that other people are looking at you and judging you at the gym is pure paranoia and a bit of a case of "main character syndrome"

[-] riodoro1@lemmy.world 31 points 1 year ago

No, it’s years of PE trauma.

[-] TJmCAwesome@feddit.nu 5 points 1 year ago

No one is looking at you, you are not the main character. You're just a background NPC to them.

[-] Pelicanen@sopuli.xyz 13 points 1 year ago

Thing is, it's not about being "the main character". Some people had a really rough time in school and for them it can feel that they're being judged by others even if most people aren't. Childhood trauma and psychological conditions are really complex and even if you can "logically" reason something to be true, your anxiety and your emotions are really really good at convincing you that your fears aren't unfounded.

[-] moonsnotreal@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago

Yeah school was awful for me. It took me a while to get comfortable in public spaces because of anxiety.

[-] LeylaaLovee@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 1 year ago

Lol you clearly don't go to the gym if you're saying this. Went to the YMCA as a kid and saw elliptical politics that made my middle school that literally split us into "teams" by economic class look tame in comparison. Because of the death of the third place in western society, any activity that isn't where you sleep or work becomes a third place, where people are kind of inherently judging the people around them, to fulfill this. All the shitty people you went to high school gym with are mostly the same people now, and need a place to continue their bullshit. Some will grow past this, but by that point the next generation of gym shitheads is ready.

The only way I agree with your comment is if you said "people at the gym aren't judging you any more than people outside the gym already do". Maybe it's just the area I live, but everything becomes a game of judgement. It's one thing to say "yeah I'm being judged by other people and I don't care". But to determine that you aren't being percieved at all off of this idea is more delusional than the idea that you are being percieved.

[-] balls_expert@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 year ago

My experience is in line with @TJmCAwesome@feddit.nu

Maybe you have a case of the main character syndrome or some social anxiety yourself

[-] pinkdrunkenelephants@lemmy.cafe 6 points 1 year ago

Lol nah it's true, people silently judge everyone around them and they do it to try to convince themselves they are superior. That they haven't been doing things wrong their whole lives. That their inner models for how the world works are accurate.

You just don't want to admit that humans are that shitty, that's all. Or that you are.

[-] TJmCAwesome@feddit.nu 9 points 1 year ago

YOU silently judge everyone around you. You've admitted as much. You don't know what it going on in any one else's head, that's pure conjecture by you.

[-] pinkdrunkenelephants@lemmy.cafe 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

And so do you. I never said I was excluded from that rule. I am at least unabashedly honest about it. You just don't want to accept you are the same way.

We are nothing but selfish, indolent, avaricious, narcissistic, jealous, petty, nasty little apes who establish dominance hierarchies and silently judging others for the reasons I listed above is one of the myriad of ways in which we demonstrate our true nature and establish dominance over one another.

Convincing oneself one is superior to others is a survival mechanism. A destructive one I am going to judge you and blame you for, simply because it is the truth.

We are destructive and cruel to each other and that is what it means to be human. Accept it.

[-] fedditurus_est@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 year ago

Do yourself a favor and tell that to a therapist.

[-] pinkdrunkenelephants@lemmy.cafe 3 points 1 year ago

See? The first thing any of you thought to do was take offense because deep down inside, you know what I'm saying is true.

Would it help if I told you it's okay to just be a simple animal? We all are anyway.

[-] fedditurus_est@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 year ago

I didn't take offense. It's not that all of what you're saying is false. It's just quite obvious that you have a very negative picture of humans and probably have been hurt. People aren't just the cruel animals you think they are. I know that and sincerely wish that you someday will as well. So that wasn't meant offensive in any way. Go see a therapist.

[-] Pelicanen@sopuli.xyz 4 points 1 year ago

What makes you think they took offense? If they responded another way that they don't do it, you'd believe them? I think you're just coming up with excuses to claim that you're right.

[-] Smirk@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

Wow, I scrolled through your history and landed one one random comment.

If you see humans default to this, it's only a reflection of yourself, and I mirror the guy who replied to you. Therepy would really help you.

Choose to see the good, or proliferate the bad, your choice.

[-] ReluctantMuskrat@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Not everyone is the same. We aren't all motivated by the same things, we weren't all raised the same way, we weren't all damaged by the same things and we don't all think the same.

When you assume everyone thinks the same way as you, you'll misjudge a lot of people.

[-] pinkdrunkenelephants@lemmy.cafe 2 points 1 year ago

And not a single one of those things changes the fact that humans silently judge each other.

All people do this across all cultures. We're hardwired to do it by virtue of being what we are, and what we are are apes who establish dominance hierarchies.

It's just a fact. You're purposefully misconstruing it as a moral claim so you can attack a strawman to make yourself feel better, but it's still just a fact.

If I told you it is in no way a moral judgement or condemnation toward you, I bet you would be more ready to accept it, and that's the point. Your selfishness is the point.

[-] balls_expert@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago

No, no, I'm pretty amazing

[-] Luckybuck@ttrpg.network 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I guess it's easier when your're an older white dude, you can just kind of melt into the background and stay off people's radars. It's probably way harder when your trans.

[-] naevaTheRat@lemmy.dbzer0.com 44 points 1 year ago

my thoughts at gym:

grumble I'm tired and want to go home but I'm glad I came
oh hey it's that person, they're making progress rock on
ah rehab exercises? bummer. Good on them doing the work to get better
Wow that person is jacked, they must be working so hard
Oh no the thing I want to use it taken. Oh well I'll wait

[-] randombullet@feddit.de 19 points 1 year ago

Should I poop now or wait until after my set?

Is that a fart?

[-] Senseless@feddit.de 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

If you're going to use the leg press just go sooner rather than later.

[-] VinesNFluff@pawb.social 4 points 1 year ago

Adding to those:

[Song Lyrics]
Good lord, that lady is tiny but she lifts some serious iron. She could kick my ass. (there's a very short but very built young woman who works out at the same time&place as me)
Oh boy, cardio. I hate it here :D