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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/23396300

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it would be cool if websites let you be an adult on them. the advertisers and payment processors need everything to be Family Friendly though and their definitions of family and friendly are absolutely fucked. but since they're in charge of the Internet now, no one is allowed to be an adult. tiktokers say things like "unalive" and "seggs" because they know death and sex are too adult for online. online is for idiot babies only now because they're easier to market to

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oh im sorry you're a trans adult? super ban. you are super banned for life. you have upset Visa's feelings. Mastercard is throwing up in the corner. how could you do this to Google Ads?

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[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 30 points 2 days ago (2 children)

wait huh? there's no way it's that bad, right?

i luv y'all, fedi frens! ~ <3

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[–] alekwithak@lemmy.world 38 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

George Carlin warned us about this 30 years ago.

I'd link to it but I'm in the middle of a severance theory video.

[–] ImplyingImplications@lemmy.ca 27 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Twitter is filled with porn and racism but still has payment processing and ads. 4chan has payment processing. I don't think this is a universal truth. It's more like some sites purposefully chose to have strict guidelines for whatever reasons.

[–] HawlSera@lemm.ee 17 points 2 days ago

"Sorry guys, the ad people don't like it." was just an excuse, the real goal was censorship of the web.

If Corporations are allowed to set the rules as to what gets talked about and what can't be mentioned, it's easier to flood the net with advertisements for their products.

This was posted on tumblr where trans people being suspended by staff with no good reason is a fairly regular occurrence

[–] tacofox@lemm.ee 1 points 1 day ago

Good luck finding a Pepsi ad on Twitter lol

[–] captainjaneway@lemmy.world 23 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I think the issue is that these platforms are motivated by advertisers. I can build a Reddit clone in a weekend and have it be ad-free. It's not expensive to host text + urls - which was how old.reddit.com used to operate. It's basically a few dollars a month or I could host it out of my house for the cost of electricity (and security). And, without advertisers, I don't really care what I host so long as it doesn't directly contributing to harming others.

The main issues are:

  • No one wants to join a platform devoid of content
  • Once you reach a large enough platform that people want to join, it might require revenue streams to afford the scale
  • It's hard for people to even find platforms (Google will direct you to the top 5: Facebook, Reddit, Twitter, Instagram, TikTok)

The modern infrastructure hasn't changed. It's still HTTP and servers. The problem is internet culture. We used to use the internet as an extension of our community. We could share links, forums, etc. in person (bizarre, I know). But now the internet is our entire community. And there is little drive to participate in niche communities. People like to be heard and to engage quickly on the internet which requires a large-ish platform (Lemmy is a good example of this).

[–] greenskye@lemm.ee 31 points 2 days ago (3 children)

No it's really payment processors.

There have been multiple successful ad-free websites in the past. But they still need revenue to function. Revenue their users happily pay.

But then Visa or PayPal or whoever is handling the transactions starts to pay attention and then all the sudden there's new rules in place or else they hike fees or just stop processing payments altogether.

And on the Internet, there is no true alternative methods of payment (hint: any viable methods are quickly suppressed by those same payment processors).

So the only way any website gets big is left to the whims of advertisers or payment processors (usually both).

I have no idea why we as a people are somehow fine with private companies having a complete stranglehold on all significant online business. Why we've allowed the government to privatize digital transactions, subject to very little rights or protections. It's allowing private corporations to massively suppress free speech, commerce, and social gatherings in the digital sphere.

Honestly our supposed freedoms are more and more limited these days because they only apply to public spaces, but there's been a continual erosion of 'public'. Where is the modern town square? If the only place you can practice your 'rights' is almost nowhere, do you really have those rights at all?

The government should be mandating that 'digital infrastructure' (ISPs, data centers, payment processors, etc) are neutral and can't be utilized to bully others out of business. That their privileged position also comes with extra responsibilities and restrictions so you don't have the digital equivalent of cutting off water to an abortion clinic because the water utility is pro-life.

[–] The_Decryptor@aussie.zone 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Probably ~15 years ago I knew a guy who used to help run a large local forum, one day without warning they got cut off entirely by Google because they decided some of their content wasn't suitable to run ads against, so that was it the entire site got blocked.

Ended up having to break the site into 2 separate domains, one advertiser friendly, and one they wouldn't touch.

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[–] gon@lemm.ee 17 points 2 days ago (7 children)

I mean, obviously this is true and a huge issue, but that's part of what the Fediverse aims to address. Mainstream social media is fucked and done for.

[–] Vespair@lemm.ee 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It should be, and yet almost every single community is still enforcing some kind of stupid decorum or civility "standard" which sounds fine in theory, but almost always leads to a similar (albeit less egregious) thing. You still end up with jackasses who know how to play the civility game and are able to say intentionally antagonistic and awful things within the bound of decorum whose comments are allowed to stand while the decent people who rightly tell them to fuck off are getting moderated for "civility."

So long as we keep pretending decorum and methodology matters more than intent and we keep insisting on civility over decency, we're just doing the same damn shit.

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[–] HawlSera@lemm.ee 6 points 2 days ago (8 children)

Good riddance, I hope one days there's an alternative to Discord, I don't really trust it anymore, but I can't think of a program that does the same thing but better.

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