this post was submitted on 29 Apr 2025
582 points (94.8% liked)

Curated Tumblr

4955 readers
492 users here now

For preserving the least toxic and most culturally relevant Tumblr heritage posts.

The best transcribed post each week will be pinned and receive a random bitmap of a trophy superimposed with the author's username and a personalized message. Here are some OCR tools to assist you in your endeavors:

Don't be mean. I promise to do my best to judge that fairly.

founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
 

Show transcript

Screenshot of a Tumblr post by indigosfindings:

imagine if someone just like started addressing you as Dipshit, like youre just talking about your day & they say "no way Dipshit, that's crazy." and then maybe you say to them that you would prefer not to be addressed as Dipshit & their response is "well in my major metropolitan area 'Dipshit' is not considered an insult. im not saying i think youre stupid when i call you Dipshit, i call my mom dipshit all the time" so you say Thats cool but please dont call Me that. and then they just repeat that it's something they say daily, they call all of their best friends & lovers dipshits & are called dipshit in return. "my grandma calls me dipshit at the dinner table, it doesnt mean anything." so you say Yes i understand that your friends & grandma arent bothered by being called Dipshit but i am, & i would prefer if you didnt address me as that. and they say "it's literally not possible for me to stop calling you dipshit, and it's not reasonable for you to ask me to, dipshit." anyway this post is about nothing in particular

(page 4) 33 comments
sorted by: hot top controversial new old
[โ€“] Kolanaki@pawb.social 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

My siblings, Dipshit and Dipshit, know all about this. ๐Ÿ˜Œ

One Dipshit is transfem and is "fine" being called Dipshit; just don't deadname her.

[โ€“] rainrain@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (16 children)

Language is owned by the group.

Individuals don't dictate to the group.

This individual is asserting a definition of "dipshit" that contradicts the definition held by the group.

load more comments (15 replies)
[โ€“] Azzu@lemm.ee -5 points 1 day ago (21 children)

I think both is problematic.

If you know that dipshit is not meant in a harmful way by the other person, then why do you care being called it?

Same on the other side, if you know the other person wouldn't like to be called dipshit, why would you call them that?

I really think they both have problems that they need to address within themselves.

[โ€“] dragonfucker@lemmy.nz 0 points 1 day ago

Studies show self esteem is more impacted by the values a person grew up with than their own values. That means most of the time, developing or changing your own values doesn't increase self esteem. You need to be respected in a way that makes sense in the culture you grew up with. Some people can overcome their birth culture, but not many.

load more comments (20 replies)
load more comments
view more: โ€น prev next โ€บ