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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.

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I’m a momma and I was planning on driving my son down to the beach with some family/friends. I haven’t worn a bikini since my younger days since I’m super busy nowadays as a single mom working 2 jobs. As I was trying on some of my older bikinis, I couldn’t help but wonder how my younger self was confident enough to be this exposed. I’m not insecure about my body or anything, actually I’m pretty confident since I go to the gym often, so genuinely how do other women have the confidence to rock a bikini?

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[–] BeatTakeshi@lemmy.world 46 points 15 hours ago (4 children)
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[–] Zahille7@lemmy.world 24 points 13 hours ago (5 children)

I just got done working a comic convention this weekend. You might be pretty surprised by the general lack of clothing most people wear to those things (calling it a "costume").

Just this weekend alone, I saw at least five guys walking around without a shirt, and I don't know how many women wearing things that showed basically everything. Like so tight and thin I could tell what kind and color underwear they were wearing.

And this was in Indianapolis, far from a beach or lake, right in the middle of downtown.

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[–] cRazi_man@europe.pub 14 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

Context and culture and expectations. I agree with your point, but there isn't a logical/sensible answer to these things.

I'm a man and I don't think it would be acceptable for me to wear a Speedo swimsuit or have my bum exposed the way some thong bikini bottoms do. Communities, societies and cultures dictate what's acceptable in an unsaid way. It is what it is.

Some commenters in this thread are reacting in a pointed way because questions like yours seem to imply that there should be a judgement of control of what women can/cannot do. People can do what they want, but it's also OK to think about the absurdity of society's rules......like why some women with a certain body shape can wear bikinis but others get disgusted looks. Or why it is so socially unacceptable to wear the Borat mankini. Or taking it further: why is full nudity so unacceptable and offensive? My answer is: there is no logical answer and this is what the societal collective seem to have agreed.

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 9 points 14 hours ago

Consent. If you see a woman in her swimsuit in public it's because she wants you to. If you see a woman in her underwear in public it's because she wants you to. If you see a woman in either when she DOESN'T want you to then she's likely to have the same reaction. Same as dude's in swim trunks. Public? Fine. Walk in on changing? Likely to be a bit "ahhhh!"

[–] Mubelotix@jlai.lu 7 points 15 hours ago

It does tbh

[–] illi@sh.itjust.works 4 points 14 hours ago

I'd say it's the intention.

[–] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 2 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Were you confident or just lacked a more adult understanding of nudity plus you had a greater desire for praise for your physical attributes?

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[–] Someplaceunknown@leminal.space 3 points 13 hours ago

Frills

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