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Don't be mean. I promise to do my best to judge that fairly.
I don't want to come across as a mysogynist or a misanthrope but this "It's your fault that you're lonely because you're a trash human that nobody wants to sleep with" infuriates me, because I get that shit enough from my own head without it coming from outside as well.
I don't want to just sleep with someone, I want to be able to comfortably enjoy my time with people I like and then maybe meet someone likeminded enough to build a relationship with.
I have a few friends, and spend time with them whenever I can, but 99% of my time is spent working or at home recovering from work.
I know there's the whole "You have to get out there and socialise." and "Get a hobby and you'll meet new people." But how does a single man even approach people without coming across as weird or creepy?
For obvious reasons I should probably clarify that I'm aware my brain doesn't work like regular people's do, and am probably doing the same shit as the old "people online; 'Having throw pillows makes you part of the bourgeoisie' / People irl; 'Hey man how's it going?' " tweet, but god damn if it isn't hard to have the confidence to meet people irl when all you see is things like the 'bear in a forest' trope and news stories about violent abusers reinforcing negative self bias.
Who knows. Maybe I just need to throw my nightmare rectangle off a cliff and buy a phone that only does 4 things, text, call, tell the time and play snake.
I had a long, protracted discussion with someone before leaving reddit in which he was certain toxic masculinity was feminists’ fault.
Women expect too much of men, will only accept buff and young guys, over 6’ tall, etc.
My ex of 30 years was like 5’10 and had a very agreeable dad bod. You know what actually matters – and what always mattered to all my girl fiends? The guys who cared enough to learn what we cared about, and who did all the little things. Never looks, never spending 5 hours in the gym. Spending 5 hours making a 2 year old happy is the sexiest thing there is.
But yeah, women make men toxic. 🙄