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"In Moderation" is just a code phrase for "Your not ready to stop hurting yourself yet"
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Your not ready
Grammar... in moderation 😉
this post was submitted on 28 Aug 2025
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I'm not ready!
Food should be consumed in moderation.
Why do you want me to starve to death?
The way I phrased it was supposed to stop you from being angry with me
When you struggle with binge-eating, not eating.
The difference between the two is moderation
Your only using extreme examples that are obviously harmful behaviours.
Some better examples are eating eggs in moderation, exercising in moderation etc.
- eggs in moderation
I didn't realize people had bad egg habits, outside of
some people
- exercising in moderation
Good point! Someone trying to get back into health can overdo it, i see that.
but you don’t want to scare them with the prospect of totally stopping yet.
That implies there is a desire to stop, which doesn't have to be the case.
The person saying "in moderation" has the desire to stop, but they want the subject to be receptive to a baby step to "moderate" before even introducing the idea of stopping.
Totally agreed the subject usually has no desire to stop.
The person saying “in moderation” has the desire to stop, but they want the subject to be receptive to a baby step to “moderate” before even introducing the idea of stopping.
Again, this doesn't have to be the case.
I knew quite a few people that tended to drink too much and had to be reminded to drink in moderation from time to time. But not for a second did I want them to stop completely.
But not for a second did I want them to stop completely.
Interesting, why not?
Because I still wanted to hang out with them and people that don't drink at all are usually boring and obnoxious.
Ugh Don't you just hate it when my friends lose their vices and try to be better. Ugh they get so annoying and boring. Why do I even hang out with them. They keep trying to rub it in everyone's faces. /s
It really does become a crutch though.. which sucks since there comes a point where your muscles get weak. I say ditch those instruments and live as golden gods. But in moderation :)
It's used for bad things, but there's nothing wrong with the term and is generally good practice.
Get some sun, but in moderation.
Help people, but in moderation (don't set yourself on fire to warm others. In other words, practice self-care)
Eat in moderation.
Exercise in moderation.
Play video games in moderation.
Hell, brush your teeth in moderation. Don't strip the enamel brushing 8 times a day.
Work in moderation.
Doom scroll in moderation. (stay aware, don't get to the point of crushing sense of despair)
Basically, most things are best practiced in moderation. And if one feels compelled to do harmful things, doing them in moderation can help mitigate the damage.
There are three things which come to my mind which I consider excellent advice:
First, girls, don't smoke--that is, don't smoke to excess. I am seventy- three and a half years old, and have been smoking seventy-three of them. But I never smoke to excess--that is, I smoke in moderation, only one cigar at a time.
Second, don't drink--that is, don't drink to excess.
Third, don't marry--I mean, to excess.
- Mark Twain last public address, St. Timothy's School for Girls, Catonsville, MD, 9 June 1909
I hear it differently. I’ve heard it as, “keep doing this thing that’s bad for you, just make sure it doesn’t inconvenience me or I’ll start judging you.”
Also, “it’s not a problem so long as it’s making me money, so don’t quit completely, but rather stay alive long enough to keep dumping cash into it.”
Anyone who’s ever tried to get serious help has been met with the “well just consume in moderation” argument and the “it’s a disease” excuses. We have agency, we can rewire neural pathways, and we don’t have to consume things that are killing us in “socially acceptable” measurements. It’s not an easy road but telling people “eww you can’t just limit yourself? you’re clearly broken beyond repair” doesn’t help people heal. Edit: fixed typo
“it’s not a problem so long as it’s making me money, so don’t quit completely, but rather stay alive long enough to keep dumping cash into it.”
Oh, like the company selling the thing that says enjoyed in moderation? That is a really good point