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Women only trans inclusive This is an inclusive community for all things women. Whether you're here for make up tips, feminism or just friendly chit chat, we've got you covered.

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  1. Women only… trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women's community is a good fit for them.
  2. Don’t be a dick. No personal attacks, no aggression, play nice.
  3. Don’t hate on groups, hatefilled talk about groups is not allowed. Ever.
  4. No governmental politics, so no talk of Trump actions etc. We recommend Feminism@beehaw.org for that, but here is an escape from it.
  5. New accounts or users with few comments may have their posts removed to prevent spam and bad-faith participation.

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However big or small we want to know!

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Older video but I really appreciate her perspective on why so many otherwise cute shoes are so awful. It helped me understand why I barely feel wearing some of my favorite heels, but hate nearly every pair I try on in the shop!

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If someone tells you to live up to a standard that they themselves do not live up to; they are an asshole and their opinion should be disregarded.

If someone tells you a standard of which they do actively live up to; only then are they qualified to discuss the benefits and costs involved. Then make up your own damn mind if you think it is reasonable for you.

So by default, any man who didn’t transition from being a woman, gets zero say in what I or you as a woman should do with our bodies or our lives.

(To be fair, it goes both ways)

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July is disability pride. What's something small people can do to help the disabled people around them?

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So fellow girls, I have a question for you? How do I use Eyeliner? I tried several approaches so far and it ended up looking like shit every time, so instead of trying to figure it out myself I just gonna ask you.

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Respect is something we don't get enough of! What makes you feel respected? Any examples of times it's happened?

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EDIT: this in an incredible community! Deep appreciation to everyone below who commented and responded, to LadyButterfly for being instrumental in creating this space, and to everyone who contributes to its safety and support. I'm very touched by the space a group of strangers held for me, thank you all so much, my cup runneth over💞

I understand I could just be going through it, life has been hectic, but I have a small friend group in my immediate area that I've known for about 4 years and recently, I've become increasingly uncomfortable around them.

Two of them are vicious gossips, they love to shit talk everyone in their lives, including each other, without compunction or remorse. They also occasionally engage in shady behavior. Both of them steal from Air BnBs (they'll take a vase or a bottle of room spray etc. nothing of real value, but still...) or try and cheat at things. I never tell them anything personal anymore, I've learned.

The other is making choices in her personal life, which is absolutely her prerogative, however, those choices are having an effect on her two young children. A lot of bringing new partners and people into their lives suddenly and then they disappear again, all on the heels of a recent divorce.

I am not a parent myself, so I feel like I shouldn't really have an opinion, and maybe I'm just being judgemental. For the record, I have zero issue with her having however many partners she wants to have, and under whatever circumstances, provided all parties are consenting. It just bothers me that folks she met online are coming to her house with the girls being there after only 3 or 4 dates....and there's some drinking and smoking weed involved as well.

Again, zero issue with folks who indulge, I'm sober now but I've definitely had my fun in the past and I'm no innocent. I just never got wasted around kids...

The thing is, I feel like an asshole, even just writing it out above. Who the hell am I to judge them? I'm no better than anyone else. But still, I don't trust two of them, and feel like I can't respond to the other one's questions and texts of tinder profiles etc. honestly without deeply offending her.

On the other hand, I can literally feel my pulse race and anxiety tick up when any of them reach out recently. I have a crazy impulse to just focus on my job and partner and break up with all of them. I have other long term friends that I'm very close to, but we live far away from each other. Those friendships are all comfortable and I trust them completely and can always be myself with them. We stay in touch via tech and see each other when we can, maybe once a year.

Am I being crazy? My mother is ill and I've had some grief and loss this year, so there's been some stress. At the same time, I'm eating healthy, sleeping well, exercising, and getting along well with my partner. Also keeping up with hobbies and self-care and climbing the ladder at work so I don't think it's depression.

Am I insufferable? Lay it on me, ladies.

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We made it to Friday! Well done everyone. Today's game is to write a 2 sentence horror, doesn't need to be fancy it's just for fun.

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I'm hoping someone can do a post about female/trans artists people may not have heard of. If you're a music buff please offer your services! Comment here or message me.

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We're all a bit unconventional cos we're all a bit different. What about you makes you unconventional?

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Helped your child sort an issue with friends? Problem solved at work? Crafting? Whatever it is we wanna know!

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Most of my girl friends have not seen the movie and I'm looking for some more female perspectives.

Possibly can't get tag to work so just don't read past here if you don't want spoilers.

My ThoughtsI never read the comics, so this is all just how I feel about the movie as a standalone property, with the idea that they expect us to come in with at least some cultural knowledge of who Superman is.

I was really disappointed by the female characters overall. I'm not expecting a Superman movie to center or even really care about female empowerment, but this was bad.

Lois Lane is introduced while professionally berating Clark Kent's work at work. I am prone to some sarcastic banter, but it seemed like a real jab and not actually funny. I don't know that I was buying it as playful, and it seemed like they were setting it up to not be playful and like she actually took issue with his work. I understand wanting to keep the relationship a secret, but why is she with him if she thinks he's actually bad at his job and at being Superman? Then the apartment scene where Clark is making his favorite food for their anniversary. I'm not sure if this is a joke about how men always get it wrong or not, but it made Lois out to seem ungrateful, not that I think she was, it just seemed like that's how the scene was framed. I think Clark would've remembered her favorite, but that's neither here nor there. Then she again berates his journalism and attacks his journalistic integrity after which she proceeded to essentially combatively interview her boyfriend which I don't think is peak journalism standards either. Though I understand where she's coming from with the "you made a decision unilaterally", there's no real acknowledgment from her of the fact he was doing good. If my partner tried to singlehandedly stop a war and save innocent lives I would start from a very different place. It makes it seem like she doesn't support this decision at all even though by the end of the movie it's shown to be the morally correct decision that other superheroes take up. Then he removes himself from a hostile situation and she does the (imho often male) fallback of acting like she was somehow the slighted party and falls into the "I knew this wouldn't work" female trope which I hate. Sure, I could see this as the actions of a real person, and they're allowed a lovers spat, but this makes them seem like just a bad couple. I'm not rooting for them or for her at this point. She then spends the movie relying on a male superhero to do the smart stuff, a male reporter to use his sources and a mostly male supporting cast. She then gets weirdly elitist about punk music, which if you followed the baby metal thing at all you already understand, but is upstaged by Superman's real understanding of punk. She doesn't even understand the music she was just lording superiority over him with. I'm sure it's real punk to ask the president if you can stop innocent civilians from dying. Where was that punk spirit when Superman was actually being punk in the beginning? They randomly go to his childhood home even though it's dark there and he gets healed by the sun. Maybe he asked to go there, but a weird choice though I understand it was maybe needed for his character development. Then of course at the end she says she loves him. No real character growth from her at all so I'm not sure what changed other than he was in danger so maybe trauma bonding.

Next up we have lex Luther's girlfriend. What an all around weird character choice. I'll leave out why they were even together in the first place, but she's just a bad person. She was in a position of dating lex so obviously not great to start, and then she manipulates the male reporter in a weirdly non explicitly sexual harassment way. It was gross all around. She's obviously not doing great emotionally and he is stringing her along and using her and she is withholding information about an evil war plan so some guy will hang out with her. Her name in his phone is of course about a physical imperfection which he hyper fixated on. I already saw that Seinfeld episode and it wasn't funny then. Of course she uses her "vapid self absorbed" selfies from the forced audience perspective as a cover to get information, but it's not because she's secretly good, she's just a conniving woman who turned as soon as she was slighted. Not a trope I like either.

Then there was "confident Latina". She got to be evil this time. What a win for representation.

Then there was low cut top girl. Her whole job in the movie was to be in a revealing top. Thank god we had that jumping scene at the end. Really helped develop her character.

I have other thoughts about the movie, and I didn't think it was terrible, but certainly not a cinematic masterpiece. I just wanted to chat about the female representation here because I feel like I'm not seeing a lot of people talk about it without hating on the movie for political reasons. For what it's worth, apparently Lois lane is pretty close to the comic book version.

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