I say that to my Catholic mom who is not judgemental, but too ascetic. She thinks any feelings of pleasure could lead to sin; shies away from any topic of sex and even mere mention of contraceptives; and she has antiquated abstentionist view that alcohol leads to people doing bad stuff, even though from my own personal experience, people could get drunk and still be polite, but an already insecure or asshole person who is drunk will become an even bigger asshole (because alcohol removes inhibition not morality). I say to my mom that she would be the confirmed first female pope if she had not been married.