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People need to spend a little time at a nudist resort. They'd learn real quick that naked isn't sexual.
Idk, I feel like for some people it is and for some it isn't.
Like tbh I'd be worried about going to a nudist resort because (despite the trope that "only people you don't want to see go there") if I saw a woman I was attracted to I'd be worried that it would be...uh...evident, and that seems awkward and idk if it's like, allowed to become tumescent even if it is an uncontrollable biological response (never stopped anyone from being mad it happened before, so..)
Idk, if I saw a woman walking down the street tits akimbo, I'd definitely be more inclined to think "ayy hell yeah" in my head than not, even if it happened daily, I can't just stop being attracted to women, ya know?
Not that I think she shouldn't, it's her right and I wouldn't complain about seeing them, but I can't control my uncontrollable biological responses of "attraction" nor what happens naturally when "attracted," if you will (though outside of nudist resorts, it's hidable enough because clothes.)
Boiling it down to a purely biological process is oversimplified. Unless you are getting aroused whenever you see an attractive person, simply removing clothing isn't/shouldn't be a variable. You've been socially conditioned to think of all nudity as sexual. Spending time in a nudist area is somewhat about decoupling nudity and sex. (yes there are those that go for the sex, and it's kinda the leading reason.) I think the point of being human is all about control over ones self and environment. Hell humans have spent more time on this earth walking around naked than clothed. Our current views on nudity and sexuality is relatively new due to social, political, religious, and practical reasons. (you don't want someone nude preparing large amounts of food or people in hospitals being needlessly naked for obvious reasons.) Ultimately I'm saying if you are worried about being in a public nudity area and not being able to separate the other human from their body/attractiveness, it might be something you should explore. So you can be more open to others in general.
I mean, yeah, I see an attractive (especially scantily clad or nude) woman, and I do indeed think "damn hell yeah" every single time. Yes. Been this way my entire life and I don't see an end in sight. I mean it's not like I'm gonna knock her over the head and drag her into my hut but will I look? Yeah. Could I get a boner (that would likely go unnoticed unless we were at the aforementioned nudist resort)? Yeah absolutely, could happen. Sure, maybe it's been social conditioning since I was like 11 but at the same time it still "is," sometimes people don't think it be like it is, but it do, even if the reason for it "being" is 30+yr of social conditioning.
I think that the notion that we exist to control our environment is comforting, but hubris. We exist in our environment and absolutely do not have a control of most of it. Like in this example, I can control my reaction in that I don't become a sex crazed rapebeast every time "titty," but I cannot control "mmm hell yeah titty." Frankly, I'm not sure I want to. Hell yeah titty! What is wrong with me having a sexual nature as a human after all? I'm not sure liking boobs counts as a kink really (it certainly isn't paraphilia) but "don't kink shame me," really.
Sure, cavemen may have been naked and if I was raised as a caveman perhaps I'd like titty less. Buuuut it's 2024, and I've been raised in this world, where I do in fact like boobs.
Really it isn't an issue for me as far as I'm concerned, excepting my hesitancy to walk around naked myself at a nudist resort because I don't want to possibly have an embarrassing boner. It may be an issue for people who want to walk around tits akimbo and still not have them be seen or who have a problem with me liking seeing them, but they've chosen to be naked in public and so a certain amount of "being seen" has to be expected.
Sorry for the late reply. I've had a busy few days.
I'm not saying there's natural/biological part to seeing some who is naked outside of culture norm to do so. What I'm saying is that decoupling your sexual desires from non sexual situations is beneficial not only for you but also for society. I'm advocating for a higher understanding of what it means to be human and respecting those despite what they look like or what they are wearing. Yes all within reason. Of course no one is arguing that you would knock a women out to SA (sexual assault.) her, but there are those that don't have that level of control. And those people use our ridiculous cultural ideas about nudity and sexuality to do such atrocities. Your stance is just the lesser form of, "what was she wearing?" "why was she in that environment, she should have known SA was a possibility." Just because a women is walking around naked/topless does not mean she wants to be objectified. (because once you boil someone down to an object, harming them becomes much easier.) Ya have that moment of nice tits, but don't mentally linger on it, ogle at her, or voice your desires to others. And if you see others doing the opposite chastise them. If you want to get so excited about boobs go on the internet, go to a strip club or reputable brothal, or get in a healthy relationship with someone that'll show you their's in a sexual manner. I fucking love women's boobs and ass, and love smashing may face into them during consensual activities. But I can also see a naked woman and not have the first thought be sexual.
Honestly, I must respectfully disagree. Personally, I still respect someone even if I want to have sex with them (or enjoy seeing them topless, as it were), in fact if we started getting to know eachother and found out I did not respect them, I would no longer find them attractive.
I further disagree in that I think simply looking at someone and being attracted isn't (or at least isn't necessarily,) objectification. I think there has to be a whole lot more at play than just "oh this girl looked at my abs while my shirt was off in public, she's objectifying me." Even if she said "oh look at that guy's abs" to a friend, I don't think it's crossed a line. Attraction isn't necessarily a problem, what's a problem is not taking no for an answer. Even if the first thought is sexual, so? Sex is natural, attraction is natural, it is what it is, just don't harass people.
I'm gay. Personally, I've just never had trouble in situations with non-sexual nudity. I've been to nude beaches, about ten of my city's World Naked Bike Ride, and of course locker rooms. Plenty of hot guys around, it's hard not to notice, but never had the smallest issue with anything being evident. It feels like it's largely based on the setting.
Idk I feel like that is also highly dependant on your individual body. I know guys who never become engorged (without the help of modern medicine of course), and grown ass men that have never even fell out of that teenage "random boner" phase which we all surely have at least a passing familiarity with, and everywhere in between. I'd say I'm in between, the randos are gone, but they are easily triggered in certain circumstances.
You could bring a towel and casually hold it in front of the happy area. Maybe people will know what’s going on but they also know you’re trying. We’re all human.
Good to know, is that like, common etiquette in all of them? Not that I'm planning on going anytime soon anyway but I guess it's good to know just in case!
It’s not even mandatory to be nude, at least the ones I know in Germany. So you could get accustomed to it slowly. As long as you’re not staring, you’re fine.
In Sylt, a German Island, the nude and dog beaches are mixed.
Huh, good to know, I did indeed think those places were mandatory to be nude at like the resort type places. I know they specifically have "clothing optional beaches" (not in my country afaik, but still), and those I figured were optional as they say, but I may hold a misconception about the "nudist resorts" proper.
Glad the dogs can be nude on the beaches though! Lol :D
They have to be pretty big and saggy to do this.
It does sound like a mildly amusing female comedy troupe though.