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What even becomes of us now? What recourse do we have?

What’s going to happen to us?

Are we going to die?

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[-] j4k3@lemmy.world 49 points 1 day ago

Get a gun, learn to shoot. It is a matter of controlling your nerves and breathing. Squeeze, don't pull the trigger. With a rifle, pace your controlled breathing and fire on the repeating high points of your breath. Take out all the Nazis you can if they come knocking.

[-] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 13 hours ago

I've been trans for a long time in a conservative area. Longer than most posters on here have been alive. Pepper spray has been far better in my experience. It's tiny, lightweight, and can be brought into pretty much any building (except those with metal detectors). It's effective at stopping people in their tracks and giving you a chance to get away. Guns are just a hassle in comparison, especially in warmer months. Ain't nowhere to hide a Glock in a bikini. (I'm a transguy but you get the gist.)

[-] j4k3@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago

::: spoiler I got spayed by the stuff once while riding on a bike trail. It was a mentally off homeless person that was looking for conflict with any perceived enemy and I guess I fit the bill in a club kit on a nice looking road bike. I mean, no one can tell that the bike is a crashed and salvaged demo bike I was given as a perk of working in a bike shop for peanut shells and promises or that I'm just doing a quite miserable physical therapy routine and spend most of my day lying in a bed.

Anyways, I don't know what the state of the pepper spay was, like how old or brand, etc. There's no doubt that it was tossed by someone that this person managed to find.

While I am somewhat limited on a bike and certainly not in race shape anymore, I was an amateur racer in the past. I've ridden most days since 2009. The longest stretch I've ever done without riding is 8 weeks due to the crash that broke my neck, back, and totaled 2 SUV's. I still ride quite hard and can hold 20+ MPH and higher. I generally push right up against subanaerobic levels when I ride. This was the state I was in when I was sprayed right in the face at close range of less than 3 feet. I was traveling at 15-20 MPH at the time.

I could tell something was not right, but I had no idea exactly what I had been sprayed with. My sunglasses prevented direct eye exposure. I was soaking with sweat and it was all around my glasses. I immediately stopped hard and was around 20 feet away from the guy that was just standing there smiling and staring. I was in hard cycling shoes and Shimano road cleats, so I'm obviously not in shape to chase anyone down or fight with those on. However, upon stopping, it became clear to both of us that there was no immediate effect, and I might just have the option to beat the hell out of this punk. The dude panicked and darted into the cover of an overgrown riverbank.

From there I still rode about a half mile to a police station. By the time I got there, the effects started getting bad enough for me to begin to have trouble seeing and breathing at full lung capacity. It was annoying and a very irritating nuisance. However, I am conditioned for pain tolerance both naturally, (racing as a roadie is all about masochistic pain), and chronic spinal issues for over a decade. I will say, that pepper spray, which it clearly was after it took effect, barely phased me. I had to stop and try to wipe and rinse most of it off my face. I couldn't get it off my jersey, and that was irritating over my skin. I couldn't wash all of it off of my face either. It was getting in my eyes from sweat. I spent about 30 minutes stopped washing and wiping the crap off as best I could. Still, I soft pedaled around 8 miles back home from there. I could have easily and quickly gotten a ride home if I had called, but I wear my "it could be worse" worst days as a badge of honor.

My real point is that, if anyone pepper sprayed me personally, and if the effects were anything like in this instance, it would do little to stop me.

I spent awhile working in heavy industry with some of the most petty racist and stupid men I've ever put up with; exactly the type of person that is very dangerous to the LGBTQ community. I'm not particularly handsome but in that group I'm the pretty boy, but accepted mostly by force because I'm physically a large commanding build of a guy. My pain tolerance and toughness pale in comparison to that group. Working around those guys in my early twenties had a big impact on my tough character, but I'm only cosplaying next to some of the stuff I've seen. There are a few guys in that group that a couple of bullets are unlikely to stop unless they clip some vital wiring – of which there is very little.

I hate the idea of telling anyone to get a gun or have a last stand mentality for some sense of security. I hate telling someone that feels insecure to acquire something that is equally dangerous to themselves, (projecting my own psychology and chronic situation – not presuming, accusing, or insinuating). I just mentally abstract to the thought of the Gestapo taking people away in Nazi Germany. I'd rather die in a gun fight than get herded into a chamber. In the present, I don't think it will come to that, especially here in California, but I want to go on my terms under such a circumstance. No one has a right to take your life or judge anyone else. I believe in the Hippocratic oath's "First, do no harm" and by extension, 'live and let live'. Anyone violating this unalienable right deserves what they get, even at the hands of a guerilla insurgency of one.

Anyways, I would be very careful about choosing pepper spray and relying upon it. I'm sure there is variance in quality and chemistry. Still I would be very very aware of only using it in a situation where the primary issue is their pursuit of me after fleeing. In this limited capacity, I can see pepper spray as truly effective. I would not be able to chase someone at full tilt for very long after being sprayed. I would have been able to chase for 5-10 minutes before I was completely unable in my one instance of experience. If they were within a short distance or arms reach when I got sprayed, all bets are off. It then becomes rage then rage inducing spray. I'm not trying to scare or make things worse. Hopefully someone that has experienced it directly in an outdoor blind situation where I did not expect pepper spray or even know that it was pepper spray, is a helpful perspective. I can describe almost any situation like this in extensive detail and try to give grounding context as much as I can. Hopefully this gives a useful perspective. That is my reason for all the bla bla bla, plus I just care. Stay safe, seriously.

[-] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 10 hours ago
[-] j4k3@lemmy.world 1 points 9 hours ago

NP. Be well, stay safe.

[-] gazter@aussie.zone 42 points 1 day ago

Jesus fucking Christ... Is this the reality people in the US are living? I can't comprehend the environment that would lead to someone giving this advice.

[-] plzExplainNdetail@slrpnk.net 33 points 23 hours ago

Yes it's a reality and their advice is honestly solid. Here's some maps/statistics showing gun violence in the US in 2024 from the gun violence archives.. If you look at their dropdown menu, there's a tab specifically for seeing just the last 72 hours that is currently 10 pages long. If you're looking for reasoning on how that environment comes to be, you might have a read of Parable of the Sower by Octavia Butler.. You can find free pdf versions with a quick internet search. There's also a second book called Parable of the Talents.

[-] Zirconium@lemmy.world 9 points 21 hours ago

Read parable of the sower and talents by Octavia butler like 2 months ago. Can't believe we might end up like that

[-] gazter@aussie.zone 8 points 22 hours ago

Thanks for an honest and informative reply.

I guess I'm lucky in that I'm not particularly tied down anywhere. If I found myself in that situation, I'd just leave. A visa to a more developed, civilised country like Thailand or Chile isn't that hard to get, right?

Or is leaving equivalent to 'letting them win'?

[-] ProgrammingSocks@pawb.social 17 points 22 hours ago

Leaving being "letting them win" is something only the most privileged believe. It doesn't matter, your life comes first.

[-] Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world 26 points 1 day ago

when half the population wants you dead, this is the type of thing that happens

[-] FordBeeblebrox@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago

“Shoot through the fake news”

They’ve been going at stochastic terrorism for a while now, so no if I was trans or black or a woman or gay or Mexican or Haitian I would absolutely put a 1911 on my belt cause the intent to harm has already been declared.

[-] KaRunChiy@fedia.io 10 points 23 hours ago

I often have to mask even the slight "gay" tinge out of my voice where I live because even that would draw scrutiny, I have absolutely no doubts that active conservative mercenaries would have it out for us in this godless state. As horrible as it is already, it will only get worse from here, and many are preparing to at least protect their own lives no matter what.

[-] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 37 points 1 day ago

You know full well this is bullshit advice. I can’t murder someone and most people can’t do it, let alone flee and evade a militarized force with an ungodly budget.

[-] CommanderCloon@lemmy.ml 41 points 1 day ago

They're saying this to get you to be able to protect yourself against civilian-led acts of violence. The danger doesn't just come from the trump gov, but also its electorate.

If you think you'll have to fight the government itself, you either need to join a vast armed resistance movement, or flee

[-] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 31 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

^ this. It's not actual militias to worry about, it's the KKK, the lynch mobs, the drunken parties that get out of hand, the Jan 6 rioters

The danger is what becomes considered "acceptable".

Fuck this is going to be a miserable decade+... I already thought i was a bit paranoid, I really didn't need to feed it.

[-] BlitzoTheOisSilent@lemmy.world 7 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

It's better to be judged by twelve than carried by six.

[-] TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 2 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

hoooly shit that's one hell of a quote! I can't even convey my emotions about how sadly real it is.

[-] grue@lemmy.world 15 points 23 hours ago

Self-defense is not "murder."

[-] pmc@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 16 hours ago

Tell that to my conscience. It probably wouldn't accept that.

[-] grue@lemmy.world 4 points 15 hours ago

I mean, if you'd rather be suicidally pacifistic that's up to you, but the undeniable fact is that it's not exactly a great individual strategy.

[-] nickwitha_k@lemmy.sdf.org 14 points 1 day ago

I think the intended thought isn't necessarily "winning" but rather, "if you're going down, go down swinging". I'm not sure that I'm that pessimistic but, I'm certainly not optimistic at the moment.

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