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Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
Getting to wake up and pick earrings and a dress is really nice. My first decade and a half or so of gender euphoria was mistook for "that weird kink I can't seem to shake," a.k.a. crossdressing. I think I built a wardrobe of embarrassing crappy Amazon stuff that didn't fit 3 or 4 times and threw it all out when summer came around and I was all "I can just be a normal guy". Lol. Can't count the number of therapist I asked to help me stop but it always came back. The "kink" was actually gender euphoria in disguise. It was one of those slap your forehead "doh" moments when I was sitting around in a dress and just feeling right. Looked at my partner and said "I think I might be trans..." to which they replied "fucking finally!"
This sounds so much like my early days. I used to purge all my clothes and makeup and all that and try to be normal. Never worked and I threw away or burned some amazing outfits. So regret it now but ya. Took me way too long to admit it was gender issues not a kink.
That last line is hilarious ๐