You want to get their interest, but as this might be one of those deal breaker questions, you should get it out of the way early. There's no shame in breaking up from an incompatibility in attraction or sexual preference, but there should be some shame at sticking with it expecting another person to change for you.
Just to clarify though, not a first date question.
More like third.
Disagree. Put it in your profile. Filter hard and early.
Both methods acceptable, but if it wasn't on the profile then it definitely shouldn't be brought up on the first date
You want to get their interest, but as this might be one of those deal breaker questions, you should get it out of the way early. There's no shame in breaking up from an incompatibility in attraction or sexual preference, but there should be some shame at sticking with it expecting another person to change for you.
My girlfriend hates anal but likes to role play rape so it works out.