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nailed it, chef’s kiss, got it in one.
for me the distinction is important bc even the idea of having a gender preference is really foreign to me. genitals and gender expression have nothing to do with whether you’re a shit person or not! i can’t even imagine a scenario in which i’m “turned off” by the way someone was born. OR MUCH WORSE, by the way they CHOOSE to find comfort and self-fulfillment via gender expression.
context: i got the ’tism and something like a nonbinary identity myself. i’ve been told those things do a lot to explain this perspective lmao
thank you, that finally put it into words! only context difference for me is I'm not enby
Isn't arousal based on personality more demisexual than any of the others shown above?
It's hard to explain. I am (demi) aromantic and I really can't pin down why I am attracted to women and femme folks. It's just "vibes," I guess.
I can be friends with a person regardless of gender identity, expression, or genitals no problem. I can recognize when a man or masc person is good looking. But I am just not interested in them sexually.
Also autistic.