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I am a 24 year old woman who was diagnosed at age 19 with ASPD aka sociopathy/psychopathy, Ask Me Anything.

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[–] guismo@aussie.zone 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (5 children)

How do you feel about society's view on your diagnosis?

I'm told I may have bpd and I feel horrible about it, I know bpd people are hated and the support are for people who have to deal with them. However everywhere I read your diagnosis is seen as the worst. Basically looks like a name society came up for people they hate.

I'm not sure if my reading is correct. How do you think people see it and how do you feel about it? Do you agree with whatever the general opinion is?

Reading here it seems to be even worse than i thought. If you tell people about they will think you are a murdered/sadist/demon. Just the name they gave you must be harder than whatever symptoms you have...

[–] Justathroughdaway@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

"How do you feel about society’s view on your diagnosis?"

I think our society's view on ASPD is far too stigmatizing and sensationalised. The majority of people learn about ASPD through entertainment and junk true crime pop psychologists. Even just the word "pychopath" is used as just another word for bad. So many people who claim to be mental health positive completely change their tune when it comes to cluster B personality disorders and not something seem was wholesome like depression or OCD.

"I'm not sure if my reading is correct. How do you think people see it and how do you feel about it?"

I love your analysis. People should think of ASPD the same way people think of any other mental illness. ASPD itself is bad but we shouldn't demonize people who have it. The same way we don't demonize people with autism or schizophrenia. At the same time we shouldn't romanticize it. I see a lot of people calling themselves 'psychopaths' or 'sociopaths' because they think it sounds cool and edgy. They want to think of themselves as the cunning and smart literally me villain from there favourite movie. Not only that just as bad as stigmatizing ASPD it's just plane cringe as well.

"Do you agree with whatever the general opinion is?"

Not at all. The general opinion on ASPD doesn't come from reality it comes from movies and TV. Most don't understand ASPD and only think about it as the "evil person" disorder.

[–] guismo@aussie.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You have a very admirable take on all these questions. It's hard to believe you have a disorder.

And on that note, do you think you do? From the comments it seems like you agree you have a disorder that needs fixing and is bad, as you put it.

I have a hard time with these diagnostics that seem to change a lot (a broken bone had always been a broken bone and needs healing). How far are things just different perspectives or just different personalities or disorders?

I have many of the same behaviors as people from many "disorders", and also from the same zodiac sign. If I changed them I would just be another person, not necessarily more healthy. And the same with everyone.

I'm not sure what I'm getting at. It's just that you have a much more controversial diagnosis and you seem more mentally stable than the vast majority I hear talking. It makes me question these diagnosis more than I do with myself. But then again, you seem more rational than I am, and with the least socially acceptable diagnosis and you seem to agree with it, so I think it's just me making excuses for my disorder and it all makes sense...

[–] Justathroughdaway@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Thank you, I'm so glad I could come across as stable as someone with this disorder can. The response has been amazing as well. I couldn't have imagine how open people the people in this AMA being this open. I can say that I've changed a lot of people's view of this disorder that wouldn't have happened anywhere else.

When I was diagnosed I wasn't really worried more surprised. I thought of sociopaths as simply evil serial killers and super villains so it was very hard to think of myself as one. Looking back there where a lot of obvious signs from my childhood. I'm lucky enough that I got the help I needed but it is difficult to live with the sigma of ASPD. A saying I come back is "A king doesn't concern himself with the opinion of peasants". Most people's opinion on ASPD is invalid as they don't really understand it and what they know only comes from Hollywood. Just remember, a diagnosis doesn't define you. It lead to some traits more then others but as long as you can handle them and get the help you need them it's fine. Nobody is perfect, we all have bad things about our self and good parts about our self. For some it's there intelligence, looks and weigh but for others it's being a narcissist or having ASPD.

[–] guismo@aussie.zone 1 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

I think a better way to put my question is: do you think yo need help? You said ASPD is bad. Do you agree, independently of what others say, that what you are is bad and needs to be fixed?

That's the conflict I still don't know the answer. If those diagnosis are as real as a broken bone, is it a disease that needs healing or a personality trait?

From everything you told me it seems to me you think it is something that needs healing, and you seem to be more rational than I am, so your opinion is being very useful and important. One thing is a "normal" person who has nothing to lose saying we need help, the other is someone else being on this side of the bridge.

I just want the answer to be "no, they are wrong and they just don't like that which is different", but I don't know if my wish is the reality.

[–] Justathroughdaway@lemmy.world 2 points 19 hours ago

Yes, ASPD is ultimately a disorder. Not feeling empathy or remorse isn't normal and can you down a bad path in the long run. There's a reason why so many criminals have ASPD.

While I believe our society stigmatises ASPD too much I also understand that ASPD is something deeply wrong with me. Some people need help more then others but you don't understand what I'm saying. You seem to think you need to fixed by someone else. That's not what I believe at all. I believe that we all have our floors and we all have the ability to work on them. This can be a lot of things from weight, productivity or healthiness. Regardless of what is we all have the duty to improve ourselves. I would like to specify 'we' because no one else is going to fix them for you.

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