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imagine if someone just like started addressing you as Dipshit, like youre just talking about your day & they say "no way Dipshit, that's crazy." and then maybe you say to them that you would prefer not to be addressed as Dipshit & their response is "well in my major metropolitan area 'Dipshit' is not considered an insult. im not saying i think youre stupid when i call you Dipshit, i call my mom dipshit all the time" so you say Thats cool but please dont call Me that. and then they just repeat that it's something they say daily, they call all of their best friends & lovers dipshits & are called dipshit in return. "my grandma calls me dipshit at the dinner table, it doesnt mean anything." so you say Yes i understand that your friends & grandma arent bothered by being called Dipshit but i am, & i would prefer if you didnt address me as that. and they say "it's literally not possible for me to stop calling you dipshit, and it's not reasonable for you to ask me to, dipshit." anyway this post is about nothing in particular
Not wanting people to do things to you is not wrong. I don't want people to defecate on me, even in an affectionate or accidental way, even though it's not harmful. Is that wrong?
I don't want you to walk next to me on the street. The view of you pisses me off.
Is that wrong? Or am I allowed to tell you where you shall walk?
If the person truly doesn't mean no offense with "dipshit" but you still take offense from it, that's what I'm talking about.
Same as walking on the street, if you don't want to see the person, just don't go on the street close to them. If you don't want to hear something they're saying then don't speak to them, avoid them.
I already said that if someone doesn't want to be called dipshit, then there's no reason to keep calling them that.
It feels like your looking for a way to be offended. If someone told me they don't want me to walk next to them, I wouldn't walk next to them because we should be allowed to control a space around ourselves. If someone said they don't like looking at me, that's solved by them not looking at me.
Reasonably remove yourself from a situation if you can. Don't harass people. Treat people how they want to be treated. Work together to solve problems. This is stuff children learn, it's not hard. Because the problem with your logic is that you can say "I'm allowed to invade your personal space. It's on you to leave."
But, because you want to feel offended, you will likely say "Oh, what if my personal space is five miles around me what then?!?" to which I would roll my eyes, say ok, and let you enjoy your zero friends.
That's exactly what I'm saying here. The one that doesn't want to be called dipshit should remove themselves from the situation where they're called dipshit, i.e. cut the person out of their lives.
I'm not offended, I'm just saying that policing someone else's speech is the same as asking them to leave your general vicinity, i.e. not particularly reasonable.
It isn't wrong to police certain speech, unless you think it's okay to threaten harm to people. We put limits on what is allowable, regardless of what you think. We judge people for what they say. All you're arguing is that the person calling people Dipshit should be allowed to call people Dipshit... And they are? There are no laws about calling people Dipshit or anything. Hell, you can yell slurs at people in most places. That doesn't make it right. It doesn't make them not a horrible person.
You keep looking worse for wanting to call people anything you want without being judged. Do you get that yet?
Of course it is okay to threaten harm to people. "Policing speech" is exactly that, "threatening harm to people". If you police someone's speech, the implied threat is something like "if you don't change your speech, I'm going to make your life harder/remove certain benefits from you/reduce your social status", all of which is "harm".
Okay, enjoy your zero friends.
Yikes