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imagine if someone just like started addressing you as Dipshit, like youre just talking about your day & they say "no way Dipshit, that's crazy." and then maybe you say to them that you would prefer not to be addressed as Dipshit & their response is "well in my major metropolitan area 'Dipshit' is not considered an insult. im not saying i think youre stupid when i call you Dipshit, i call my mom dipshit all the time" so you say Thats cool but please dont call Me that. and then they just repeat that it's something they say daily, they call all of their best friends & lovers dipshits & are called dipshit in return. "my grandma calls me dipshit at the dinner table, it doesnt mean anything." so you say Yes i understand that your friends & grandma arent bothered by being called Dipshit but i am, & i would prefer if you didnt address me as that. and they say "it's literally not possible for me to stop calling you dipshit, and it's not reasonable for you to ask me to, dipshit." anyway this post is about nothing in particular
Yeeeeeaaaah he didn't tell me he was proud of me until I was 25, so "probably not."
Also I did/do call him dad, but dude is more of an interjection or exclamation than an honorific. "Hey dad how you been? ... Word cool glad to hear it. OH DUDE so I was talking to mom the other day, and..."
"Dude" like 100% of the time means either I forgot an acquaintance's name or "OH SHIT my ADHD just reminded me of this thing I'm about to tell you" or "Maaaaaan/sheeeeeit/duuuuude" or simply the same as "bro/guy/buddy/pal/mack/playa/nword(can'tsaythatonebutykwim)/hoss/boss/cat/chingon/друг/чубак/comrade/friend/doc/anything-commonly-used-instead-of-a-name."
I feel you, dude (lol). My kids call me dude like that, too, and I use it the same way. I often used to say, "Yeah, man," as an affirmative, no matter who I was talking to, but I guess that fell out of daily use a while back.
I was trying to look at it from a father's perspective; the kind of thing I might say in that situation if it really bothered me. And, I think it's important to explain how we feel about things using that "when you say/do X, it makes me feel Y" formula to help keep things focused and non-accusatory.
I also say "man" like that still haha.
Yeah I feel ya, but I don't think that was him, knowing him. More likely it was some archaic notion that was a remnant from the 50s, that addressing your parents as anything other than "sir" or "ma'am" is improper, which he also unsuccessfully tried to push. He's dropped it now, though, which is good because it was just not gonna happen.