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The same is happening on reddit, like /r/detrans is entirely an anti-trans space.
It’s so difficult to deal with. The stories are just subtly off. Way too many of them (and then, the double edge “lol look at how trans people aren’t believing that we exist”) You can’t call them out directly, because it would be shitty if they weren’t lying but catching them in the act is such a trick.
And so many fake accounts will claim to have some sort of qualifications in biology which just don’t add up with the way they talk about science.
It’s like some sort of cult. We have to figure out how to protect children from it. Not even just in the sense that it’s harmful to us - but it’s harmful for them. This deranged fixation on us, the eagerness to lie and hurt us, it’s mystifying me. I don’t get it.
Respectfully, there isn't much to get. You have been othered by them. They do not see you as a person. They do not see you as someone deserving respect or compassion. Their lives are shitty and empty and you an easy target that can be harassed and humiliated in order to make them feel better about themselves.
I guess the best that can be done is to try to draw out the vicious ones - to make them give up the game. To say the disgusting shit that will alienate “centrists” and fence sitters.
They attack our history, they say we weren’t killed in the Holocaust, that our books weren’t burned, that we’re just silly and are seeking validation from drivers license, or that we’re rapists seeking to forcibly convert gays and lesbians…. I don’t get it. Why does anyone want to live in a world like this?
Can't even say the word Luigi there anymore but a sub like that is allowed.
gotta love the implicit "trans lives don't matter" subtext
I joined r/detrans because I was struggling with my identity (had been told being autistic meant I wasn't really trans), but honestly that place is so toxic. I find a lot of Reddit toxic lately though.
ah, it's the other way around - being autistic is a common co-morbidity with being trans and they probable have shared genetic causes, so having one increases the likelihood of the other (because of genetics).
I actually went the other way around, I realized I was trans and when I ran across the genetic studies and the studies finding strong comorbidity, I started to take seriously the feedback I had been given my whole life that I could be autistic (which I had dismissed).
Can you imagine having a sub called "de-gay" or "de-black"? It'd be destroyed in a second
ha, the concept is a bit strange - we're not at a place where people understand that being trans isn't a choice (just like being gay), so there is a real comparison between the "ex-gay" movement and the push for detransition.
To be fair, there are people who detransition, most of them only because they don't have enough support in their lives to transition. It is difficult to transition, and sometimes just not possible when your employer discriminates against you and fires you, and your spouse leaves you, and your family and friends turn their backs on you, etc. - this leads people to decide to detransition. A lot of those people transition again later in life.
So I don't think it's necessarily wrong for there to be a community for people detransitioning - their experiences and needs are worth discussing (esp. when detransitioning can be met with such strong reactions from other trans people). The /r/actual_detrans subreddit for a while was a trans-affirming detrans space, but increasingly I feel it has been infected (it's hard to keep the TERFs out I guess).
But because it's a political weapon the anti-trans movement co-opts those detrans spaces and they try to push narratives that trans people don't really exist (or are far rarer) and that detransitioners are just the ones who came to their senses and realized what they were doing was a mistake.
I think you hit the nail on the head regarding it being a political weapon, and that's why you're seeing an increase in numbers. This is manufactured consent for their narrative appearing to be genuine. Dead internet theory is alive and well in corporate social media.
You make a valid point about detransing trans needing support. It's a shame people going through that get brainwashed by people who see them as beneath them.
detranstioning does happen when it's not about support, though it's pretty rare and not at all like those people say it is.
Knew a trans guy (pre HRT) that decided that enby fit them better. Now they dress up as princesses for children's birthdays on the side, iirc they are majoring in marine biology but I haven't talked to them in years so not 100% sure.
Yeah that's the other major group. The narrative that the right likes is the rare situation of "person identifies as trans for a long enough time to have hrt/surgery and later realizes they're cis".
yes, it does happen - but it's a minority within a minority. Detransitioners are already like 1% of people who transition (which are already only like 1% of the general population), and those who detransition because they weren't trans are a minority of that 1% of a 1%.