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My friend was horrible person and so am I (self.goodoffmychest)

submitted 3 days ago by Lovesick to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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I (20M) had this woman friend (19F) when we were teens, like 15 and 16. The friend talked behind people’s backs. She made fun of them for being wheelchair users, autistic, etc. She said she didn’t want to be that way but she was. Me and my other friend went along with it and called her a good person. We defended her because she was good to us and that’s all that mattered.

She said autistic people were dogs. She wanted to kill my autistic friend. She said he was so ugly, he would never have a girlfriend and didn’t deserve a hug. She told an autistic girl who was traumatized she didn’t deserve a hug either because autistic people are “disgusting” and “her slaves”.

She saw a garbage can and told her friends that a mildly stocky girl (as in her body type) with some eating disorder that the garbage can was donations for her food :(

I never saw her again, but I’m glad I could recover and be a better person, hopefully a good one to autistic people. I do feel bad that I didn’t help him though.

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[–] classic@fedia.io 6 points 3 days ago

Brain development, namely executive function—the wiring that allows you to connect knowledge to performance as well as to perceive and understand nuance, amongst other functions—are still in development into the mid-20s. And that's without factors like the delays caused by neurodivergence, if present, to say nothing of the impact of psychosocial factors.

All that aside, we need way more open arms to anybody, at any age, who is looking to grow and rectify their past behaviors and attitudes. "I was wrong" is intrapsychically and socially one of the harder things for any of us to cop to. Kudos to anyone who does.