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Have you two talked about marriage before? Are your long-term goals compatible? I'm of the philosophy that totally spontaneous proposals generally aren't a great idea unless certain important things are already known.
If you have talked about those things, then yeah go for it.
A lot. We both want to move to possibly Japan together and get married. My family loves her and her family loves me.
I would not propose unless we talked about it, but she says often that she hopes we get married and that she wants to marry me.
Err, just be aware that Japan does not (currently) recognize same-sex marriage, although some local governments offer unofficial perks to couples. That should change with the pending supreme court case, but the government has a history of dragging its feet on things it really doesn't want to address.
Other than that it's pretty awesome here :3
Aaa, to be fair, she lives in Spain. I wish they did recognize it in her home country though! Maybe when we go to Japan, they’ll recognize it or we get married in the U.S or Spain or something