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This sounds like a US thing.
People just don't go to other people saying some random shit where I'm from. Unless they're crazy, beggars, or tourists from the US. If you come to anorher person and don't start your sentence with "excuse me" or "sorry", you're getting ignored.
That’s because it’s a straw-man. Unless someone has serious social deficiencies, this doesn’t happen. The experience is 99% ignore, 0.9% might get “like your shirt”, or “cool band”, 0.1% some weirdo - who would have found something else anyway if it wasn’t your shirt.
It’s a type of negging. I can guarantee you women wearing band shirts riding a subway, at a bar, etc, have been asked this kind of question with negative ulterior motives.
The post doesn't make any sense unless you already know that this is a trope passed around by organized manipulators. It sounds like it could be excused as friendly smalltalk from a fellow fan wanting to connect.
social deficiencies like "being a raging misogynist to the point that literally anything a woman does is percieved as lying in some way?
because those guys are everywhere, and they do shit like this all the time. in this very thread even.
It's not common but I have had this weird interaction once:
Stop at random convenience store for a drink, take drink to counter, cashier looks up, sees my Dave Matthews Band shirt, and while doing the transaction for my drink says:
"I know that band! I hate that band! Take your shit and get out!"
It was confusing as hell. Who the fuck hates the Dave Matthews Band? 🤷🏻♂️
Personally, can’t stand them, but I support people listening to what they enjoy and the musical tastes of others shouldn’t dictate what anyone else enjoys. Music is art and no piece of art is universal.
Satellite is a solid track, though.
The gate keeping in anything, music or otherwise has always been lame. I want to meet and talk to people who are passionate about things I don't know about and can talk to me about that. I've always found the "you can't like this..." Mentality annoying.
Maybe it was the people who had shit poured all over them by Dave Matthews Band.
What a weird story. And what did he do, refill the shit tank on the bus with waste so it was full when they checked afterwards, or did he swap plates to a different bus? I don't deny this guy was responsible, but that's a strange detail.
I also can't stand DMB his voice is obnoxious and all the songs sound the same. Obviously idgaf if you like them and it doesn't change how I feel about people just dont invite me to one of his shows.
I do.
It doesn't happen in the US either. These posts are made up social media rage bait.
Both people in this made up conversation sounds like douches.
I've seen it happen when I was in high school. It was usually a call out between friends and 90% of the time it was a led zeppelin shirt. Never seen it between two strangers on the street though