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The media's portrayal of an insatiable sex drive for all men has negatively impacted some of my relationships (Women-only trans-inclusive community!) (piefed.blahaj.zone)
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I have had the experience that men are very often portrayed in western media as having an insatiable sex drive. Contrary to women in media who seem to make up excuses such as having a migraine to avoid sexual contact. This often creates imbalances in these fictional straight relationships.

Now I've had the other problem in the past. I've found that I've initiated sex quite often but I've also often been declined. Having this image in my head that men are the ones who should always be up for sex, this definitely used to affect my self-worth a lot. I thought I was the problem, that I was not attractive enough. Over the years I had struggled with adjusting my expectations.

I'm not sure why I'm posting this but I though it might be nice to see if others had a similar experience

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[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 3 points 4 days ago (5 children)

This is a really interesting topic! I think you've made an excellent point here. Men are expected to be ever ready for sex, so when they refuse a woman that's gonna hurt. It really negatively impacts men as well... there must be men having sex before they're ready, with people they're not sure of etc.

I think it's important to remember women still do a disproportionate amount of household chores and childrearing. A tragic amount of women are sexual assault survivors which can make sex difficult. I also wonder how many secretly gay men are married to women and therefore not really enjoying the sex.

[–] mugthol@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 days ago

Those are definitely fair points. I am sure there have been men who've been told to "man up" if they didn't want to have sex with a woman. As Madzielle said this stereotype (and the patriarchy) hurt men too

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