Unpopular Opinion
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How voting works:
Vote the opposite of the norm.
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Guidelines:
Tag your post, if possible (not required)
- If your post is a "General" unpopular opinion, start the subject with [GENERAL].
- If it is a Lemmy-specific unpopular opinion, start it with [LEMMY].
Rules:
1. NO POLITICS
Politics is everywhere. Let's make this about [general] and [lemmy] - specific topics, and keep politics out of it.
2. Be civil.
Disagreements happen, but that doesn’t provide the right to personally attack others. No racism/sexism/bigotry. Please also refrain from gatekeeping others' opinions.
3. No bots, spam or self-promotion.
Only approved bots, which follow the guidelines for bots set by the instance, are allowed.
4. Shitposts and memes are allowed but...
Only until they prove to be a problem. They can and will be removed at moderator discretion.
5. No trolling.
This shouldn't need an explanation. If your post or comment is made just to get a rise with no real value, it will be removed. You do this too often, you will get a vacation to touch grass, away from this community for 1 or more days. Repeat offenses will result in a perma-ban.
6. Defend your opinion
This is a bit of a mix of rules 4 and 5 to help foster higher quality posts. You are expected to defend your unpopular opinion in the post body. We don't expect a whole manifesto (please, no manifestos), but you should at least provide some details as to why you hold the position you do.
Instance-wide rules always apply. https://legal.lemmy.world/tos/
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that is a fair point. it's a sore subject for me, unfortunately. i may not have approached the topic in the right head space having grown up experiencing shame for simply being attracted to the same gender. i'd watch couples smile and laugh together and say, "we're trying for a baby," clearly implying what i was describing, and the room just reacting positively and encouragingly. you see that over and over and you can't help but develop a negative connection to the phrase. what you said is of course true. i don't react with disgust towards anyone, so at least i'm not making my discomfort known, but you've given me something to mull over and try to correct. sometimes you forget that you aren't being attacked anymore when it's all you've been used to.
NGL, I don't think that this was the response I was expecting. If you're being sincere, then I apologize for the hostility in what I've said. I got heated and said some things that are harsh. I know that as a straight caucasian male that I come from a place of privilege, and it's definitely easier to say something than it is to do something.
It's difficult for me to wrap my head around the idea that talking about pregnancy can be a trigger in this sense, but I do empathize with your situation. When I said I grew up in a small down with no out gay people, that was true. Within a year of me graduating, at least 5 maybe a couple more of my class of around 70 came out. One of them definitely went through some shit in school, because kids can be awful. I can proudly say I wasn't one of the bullies, but you'd have to live under a rock to not see it happening. I have no doubts that that can have a slew of possible effects that carry on into adulthood.
That's a lot of words to say, I hope that if you're going through some stuff or still fighting demons, that you find your way and live a happy life with the partner of your choosing.
i am being sincere, yes. i often try to face when i am wrong to determine why i acted the way i did. i’m glad you find it difficult to wrap your head around. that means you haven’t lived through what i have. nobody should. without going into much detail, i was bullied out of high school when my life was threatened. that’s the kind of place i grew up in.
i am fighting several demons still but thank you for your kind words.