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This is a fairly well-written and nuanced take that mostly aligns with my experiences.

If you try to defend yourself or talk about your own problems as a man, it is labeled as misogyny.

I think this is one of the bigger parts of the issue. There seem to be two types of responses when men open up. One is to shut them down for one reason or another, and the other one is the manosphere saying "yes, that is a problem, and I have a solution". That option is obviously going to be more appealing.

We need a third option of commiseration for problems without simple solutions. Guys need a space to vent about these issues, without it being seen as an effort to take those opportunities away from others. Of course, we need to pick our forum. Not every space is a place to vent frustrations, which is probably why you get rebuked.

So how do we develop the third option? Well, open up to your male friends. Ask them how they're doing, and actually listen for an answer. If they just give you "I'm good, how about you?", that's your moment. It's probably going to feel unnatural, and you might not get the response you're looking for. If you're worried about how it will be received, maybe start small. Explain something you're concerned about. You can acknowledge solutions offered, but try not to focus on them. If you get shut down among your friends, maybe it's time to re-evaluate that friend group.