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This is a community for bisexuals, their allies, friends, family, anyone curious about us or our community, or just people who want to hang out.

Bisexual means different things to different people, and I'm not going to tell you what it should mean to you. But one thing I will say is that being bisexual does NOT mean being trans-exclusionary. We love no matter what dingles, dongles, or dangles you do or do not have in your pants.

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I find both men and women attractive in their own ways, but I could never see myself dating a woman. I want a boyfriend. I don't look at romance games or stories where the protagonist romances a girl either because it's not relatable to me. Only men. Do I just prefer men or am I just straight?

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[–] EmptySlime@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 2 days ago

Something to keep in mind is that dating and romantic attraction is different from sexual attraction. It's very possible that you could be heteroromantic and only want to date men, but still be bisexual because you find women sexually attractive.

There's also a difference between finding both men and women attractive and actually being attracted to both men and women. Like I'm demiromantic and asexual. I find both men and women attractive in their own ways, I'd just as easily date a guy as a girl as long as I've gotten to know them well though to have a connection, but I'm not actually attracted to either of them.

I will say that the preferences in romance books and games maybe leans more straight, but that doesn't necessarily mean a whole lot because they do tend to really heavily link the romantic and sexual attraction. So you could still very easily be attracted to women but not want to date them because you're only sexually attracted to them and not romantically attracted to them.