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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
There was an interesting podcast the other day about raising boys in the current era when it seems like many of them are turning to far right grifters and manfluencers
https://player.fm/series/offline-with-jon-favreau/raising-boys-in-the-era-of-incels-maga-and-the-manosphere
The fact that men are turning to Far Right Grifters is tragic. They're not doing it because they're horrible people, they're doing it because they're being left behind by everyone and only noticed by the Joe Rogans of the world.
If we had a guy on the Left who looked at men and say "I don't know who you are, or what's going on, but you my friend are enough and it's not your fault you're struggling.", we wouldn't have Man-O-Sphere bullshit
Instead we blame men for all of the world's problems, and double down when they side with the only people who aren't calling them incels. People who ironically, are actively turning them into
"They treated me like an animal, so that's what I became." seems to be the mindset between those brainwashed by the Man-O-Sphere
Part of my reason for thinking this is I'm trans and when I presented as a guy, I got treated like shit, nearly got kicked out of college over a bullshit claim (That was thankfully proven bullshit, which is why I said nearly got kicked out) that I stalked a female classmate. But once I grew tits, suddenly everyone was quick to tell me how much I mattered and that it "gets better", people complimented me, people held doors open for me.... Sure I probably make less than my male coworkers, but at least I feel like I matter.
When you're a man, you're assumed guilty because the world sees things through a Pink and Blue lens, anyone Pink is a victim, anyone Blue is an abuser.
And quite frankly, it's not healthy for anyone.
Trans masc friends tell me that one of the things they miss most about presenting as women is drunk girl solidarity in nightclub bathrooms. Until I was a part of that conversation, I didn't realise how much I cherish these moments. Hearing this helped me to understand the loneliness of being a man far more than I did before.
I think that there are men on the left who leverage their platforms to reach out to men as you describe, but the problem is that their reach is far more limited because compassion doesn't sell as effectively as outrage bait; Manosphere content is incredibly skilled at creating a vicious cycle in which they incite anger in viewers, and, having nowhere to channel this anger effectively, it threatens to turn to despair, leading emotionally vulnerable viewers to return to the Manosphere, to "re-up" their rage. In the short term, it seems to offer some catharsis, but it fosters an odd dependence. The compassionate men on the left are more likely to resist this kind of dependence cycle (such as through taking steps to avoid unhealthy parasocial relationships with viewers, even if said relationships would make sponsorships more lucrative.
When the vast majority of everyone other than said grifters et al offers boys nothing but contempt and prejudice, they make them easy pickings for the only people offering them something else, even if they're lying.
It's similar to the reason that a guy who never gets attention from women is likely to 'fall in love' and immediately develop a strong infatuation for the first woman to pay attention to him.
This, men are attracted by the Man-O-Sphere because everyone else says they don't matter.
God I'd love it if there was a Joe Rogan of the Left.
Critically, however, the "Joe Rogan of the left" will never, can never, and must never be engineered and groomed by the absolute unmitigated fucking cryptkeeper scumbags running the Democrat party.
Joe didn't used to be an alt right scum bag. But then his left leaning guests boycotted him for having right leaning guests. Leading to a situation where he only had right leaning guests....
It was a mistake for Kamala to turn down the Rogan interview