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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
My autistic rant started out longer and with more context. I cut it down and perhaps too aggressively. I was mainly talking about guys who specifically are less inclined to socialize than to stay home. Which is clearly a lot of people in general, not just hetero-guys.
That is, some hetero men generally only go out with a specific goal or reason to go out and socialize outside of socializing itself because they don't find that on its own naturally a good enough reason, other than maintaining basic sanity/avoiding cabin fever.
Generally speaking hetero women have different requirements that don't necessitate consistent socialization or even social skills so if they're naturally a home-body and barely get out this probably wont be an issue for them dating-wise. If a woman is having issues dating, the advice given is almost never "you need to touch grass more".
My own context: These days I do enjoy socializing for its own sake. Maybe a little too much considering how expensive it can be... However, I am an autistic guy and I used to think I was straight. I generally spent most of my early adult life staying home playing video games, working, and not otherwise socializing at all for like 5 years of my life like some kind of hermit. Thinking for that things would just work out magically for some reason in terms of romantic relationships for me. So I kind of have some understanding of this particular mentality. I only really got into socializing and "touching grass" originally to find a woman. If I had not had that goal originally I probably would have stayed predominately a loner. Its fortunate that I ended up enjoying being a socialite for its own sake anyway, but not every guy does.