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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

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[โ€“] finitebanjo@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

I think theres also more competition for people's attention than in previous generations, as well as increasing responsibilities as aging population and wealth disparity increased in proportion.

[โ€“] pjwestin@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

Yeah, for sure. Also, I should be clear that I'm not certain how much I believe in the male loneliness epidemic. I think a lot of it can be explained as people who were conditioned to view themselves as the primary earners having to cope with the conditions of late stage capitalism. But I think that representing the male loneliness epidemic as, "men aren't getting laid," is a fundamental misunderstanding of the argument, and ironically, what the original commenter thought of when they first heard of male loneliness is a much more accurate description than what they think, "people really meant by it."