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You can't make somebody part of a community if they don't care about the idea of community. It feels like this woman is just projecting her insecurities. ie. "I do all of the volunteer work that I I'm trying to browbeat others into, so why do I still feel like I'm not welcome?"
Might have something to do with the fixation on the idea of a "transplant". Can't say I've heard that before. Must be a New York thing.
Except she doesn’t say that she still feels unwelcome.
This is a weird comment and you’re weird for writing it. Lady just suggested people volunteer so they get integrated and you took offense to that while lashing out like she’s the insecure one? Ok, buddy, sure thing lol.
I think its an any city with a strong identity thing. I've seen it in Austin, TX and Denver, CO.
Anyway, I think the advice to volunteer when you move to a new place is good advice all the same. Communities need volunteers, and newcomers need connections.