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maybe you should ask
The real problem is that when they do ask, the answer invariably leads to the person leaving for good. Yeah, I get it. I'm not fucking perfect, and I can't even protect myself most of the time. Doesn't mean that I should lose everyone that supposedly cares about me because I cracked for a few minutes.
When I have asked I get the, "Yeah dude, totally, I'll be there for you, you just say the word, you say the time."
So I say the word and I say the time and they're like, "Oh man, that's real bad. I've got this thing, and there's like this thing that's going on, and like, it's just not a good time for me."
So I say, "Okay, so how about this time instead?"
And it's like, "Oh man, oh no, I feel like such an ass, but that time doesn't work for me either!"
Then I go into problem-solving mode, "Well okay, so why don't you pick a time, and I'll work around your schedule? "
And they're like, "I don't know man, I'm just being here for you. You tell me when."
And so I pick a third time and they're like, "Ah geez, ah, oh no, oh man."
And you can tell me that I've got bad friends, and you can tell me that I have done a poor job in accumulating friendships and people who are there for me and who love me, and you can blame me for the fact that I cannot get help all you want to.
That's not going to keep the bullet out of my fucking head.
"Ah geez, ah, oh no, oh man"