me_irl

https://www.simplypsychology.org/narcissistic-mirroring.html

In practice, she seems like the ideal partner. Forget girls who don't like your hobbies, she's into the same hobbies (now)! Maybe you go over one day and you realize all of the music playing is stuff that you've been listening to on Spotify. She checked.

It's beyond flattering into, "okay, slow down" territory. One of the ugly sides being that she would do that with others, too, she acknowledged she didn't know what her own personality was anymore. She struggled with her sense of self-identity. It's hard to capture how it could feel really creepy and, ironically, isolating.