Don't get me wrong, I think it's close to heroic what you are doing, I wasn't criticising your efforts or your calculation at all. I'm quite sure you shopped around as much as possible to find the best deal for hosting.

I'm just talking about the technology behind it, and sadly when it comes to Lemmy, it's sometimes quite painfully obvious that the whole system was built by two randos without a background in distributed computing. It's not exactly efficient.

In a larger corporation it would count as a good prototype, then they'd scrap it and replace it with the real product. Kinda like how Reddit did it, starting out on Python (web.py was built for Reddit, IIRC), and when they gained enough users they scrapped it and rewrote the whole thing using proper distributed computing technologies.

(Also not criticising the Lemmy developers, since they are two randos who put in a ton of effort to make this thing we can all use for free, and that's pretty impressive too. But it's just not on the same level as stuff made professionally by teams of hundreds of developers.)