AntiMeme

I see an ultimatum.

This is prime evidence you are not at "peak maturity". Keep in mind, I'm not claiming to be either. Every day I make mistakes and try to learn from them. Sometimes I have to make the mistake again before I learn. The obvious answer isn't the right answer. Humans, especially in relationships, are not pure sources of truth. Not only are people flawed communicators, feelings and emotions frequently interfere with us understanding ourselves clearly and being able to enumerate our needs to ourselves and our mates. People aren't computers. Just because they give one worded answer does not mean that is what they believe or the thoughts they hold.

You are seeing these words. Accepting them at face value. Believe they represent the truthful thoughts of the person saying them. In perhaps another 10 to 30 years from now, you'll grow up a bit more and grasp that human relationships aren't that simple.

Without assuming more context than is written I will stand by my statement that ultimatums are about control and not conversation so they are an unhealthy form of confrontation.

I implore you, for the future of your relationship with a mate, to look deeper and be open to possibilities that don't appear obvious at first glance. You know when people say "Marriages [relationships] take work". This is one of those examples. If you skip the hard and sometimes frustrating work of communicating with your mate you will lose them physically or emotionally. If you do this without learning, maturing, again and again, you will end up alone. I certainly don't want that for you or anyone.