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submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by wintervoid@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

**So i'm in a bit of a weird position in my life right now. I've known i'm trans for the past 3ish years and recently started college. Most of the people around me seem to be pretty supportive and my parents are also supportive. I already have everyone calling me by my choice name but other then that I havent done anything I really want to actually start to transition so I can stop being depressed and there are some moments where like i really want to buy fem clothes but i go on amazon and its just too big of a mental hurdle to do anything related to transitioning has anyone else experianced something like this where they were in a place where they could transition and nothing was preventing them but they were just too scared to if so how did you deal with it?

Edit: Thanks so much for the advice everyone I think going on hrt is too scary for me but I'll order some fem clothes tomorrow. I really appreciate the advice and kind words <3

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[โ€“] wintervoid@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Any idea how I could find some trans communities irl? I live in a city but I don't know how to look for those types of groups and this is sort of the first time I've gone and actually not lurked and said something on a specifically trans community

[โ€“] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

In most cities, there are major pride and LGBT+ organizations (look for the people who organize the local pride parades, for example), and some of those are bound to have a trans support group that meets. That's how I got connected to my local trans community - through pride organizations like that, and trans support groups they hosted.

Trans folks I met through support groups could be really toxic sometimes, it's not like everyone you meet will be great - but often the organizers in the local community will be responsible and able to connect you to resources and the right people.

Also, when I lived in the South, there was actually something like a trans version of a green book, basically a guide to providers in different categories that are safe for trans people - that's how I found my endocrinologist, in the Trans in the South Guide. Sometimes these guides exist for places outside the south as well, so worth googling to find if there are any LGBT+ guides or directories for where you live. I find they're less common in blue states, because the need is strongest in places like the south where risks are higher and there are far fewer people willing to treat trans patients.