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Need advice (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by wintervoid@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

**So i'm in a bit of a weird position in my life right now. I've known i'm trans for the past 3ish years and recently started college. Most of the people around me seem to be pretty supportive and my parents are also supportive. I already have everyone calling me by my choice name but other then that I havent done anything I really want to actually start to transition so I can stop being depressed and there are some moments where like i really want to buy fem clothes but i go on amazon and its just too big of a mental hurdle to do anything related to transitioning has anyone else experianced something like this where they were in a place where they could transition and nothing was preventing them but they were just too scared to if so how did you deal with it?

Edit: Thanks so much for the advice everyone I think going on hrt is too scary for me but I'll order some fem clothes tomorrow. I really appreciate the advice and kind words <3

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[โ€“] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 8 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

It's worth pointing out that wearing a couple of more feminine items isn't going to stand out that much before coming out my favourite sweater was bought from Monki and clearly not designed for a man. No-one cared. It's a really cute sweater so I only got compliments.

The sweater in question.

So just find one or two things that "spark joy" to express yourself and ease into it. I am currently on the waiting list for the extremely slow and convoluted health system where I live. So I'm in a similar position. I'm waiting for HRT and beard removal to come out generally. And yeah I'm constantly questioning wether or not it's the right choice, but then I think about what my life will be like if I don't transition and I get a cold shiver down my spine.

I get that it's not a great time to be trans but you just have to imagine a future where you don't transition. Personally I would rather the voices calling me a freak come from outside my head. I spent the first half of my life miserable and have no intention of continuing the same way.

[โ€“] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

that sweater is adorable, omg ๐Ÿ˜ป

I know right? It's a bit short in the arms but otherwise extremely comfortable.