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The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
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Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
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TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.

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submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by wintervoid@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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**So i'm in a bit of a weird position in my life right now. I've known i'm trans for the past 3ish years and recently started college. Most of the people around me seem to be pretty supportive and my parents are also supportive. I already have everyone calling me by my choice name but other then that I havent done anything I really want to actually start to transition so I can stop being depressed and there are some moments where like i really want to buy fem clothes but i go on amazon and its just too big of a mental hurdle to do anything related to transitioning has anyone else experianced something like this where they were in a place where they could transition and nothing was preventing them but they were just too scared to if so how did you deal with it?

Edit: Thanks so much for the advice everyone I think going on hrt is too scary for me but I'll order some fem clothes tomorrow. I really appreciate the advice and kind words <3

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[–] Bryllyg@piefed.blahaj.zone 9 points 20 hours ago

Here are the things I did before I ever bought outwardly facing feminine clothing that helped me pass immediately:

Wear a cute hat
Colorful reusable face masks to match with outfits (a few bucks on amazon)
Cheap but a nice looking purse (20 bucks)
Work on voice (Free! Plenty of videos out there to start with)
Paint fingernails (about 25$ for a 3-in-1 and a color, be sure to use non-acetone remover)
Be well-groomed. (gender affirming barber helps a ton! https://strandsfortrans.org/)
Wearing nice undergarments is a huge boon to self image even if no one else can see them!

As for getting clothing when you are ready, I highly recommend Thrifting. The local thrift store changed my life and building a whole wardrobe from scratch is a huge financial investment otherwise. You can get multiple outfits at a thrift store for the same price as one new garment. It's ridiculous what stores charge for clothing.

When you are really ready, you'll know. Everyone's journey is unique and it's not a race, it's a marathon. Go at your own pace! You can do this and you are worth it!