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I understand Hi and inquisitive questions, but a compliment as danger?
The sentence is a strong indication that the complimenting person wants to do some small talk.
And is starting with a personal remark commenting on one's appearance.
I am a rather introvert person with some additional slight social anxiety issues.
Wouldn't directly interpret it as "danger", but would definitely get uncomfortable and depending on how good I know the person also anxious.
I hate it when people do not honour the simple human courtesy of pretending we are all invisible. Strangers should not even allow it to be known that they are aware I have an appearance to begin with. I was out running today looking absolutely wretched, and some woman who could not have been more than five years older than me addressed me as "honey!" I should have called her "ma'am" but I was too chagrined. I'm not sure that's related but it bothers me on the same level.
I'm not great at telling sincerity from sarcasm and was bullied in school for my appearance, so being complimented out-of-the-blue initially registers as a threat for me until my thinking brain can catch up
Hi. with a period feels so weird lol
Complements are a big warning that someone is trying to manipulate my emotions