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[–] moonbunny@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Yeah, that’s fair. I don’t really have family supports to fall back on and I just built up a small emergency fund for the first time so it’s not a serious consideration as much as it is nice to daydream about, especially since I feel like I’m able to also find routines and purpose for myself if not for my lack of independent wealth or support structure (beyond my partner that I wouldn’t want to just live off of)

The work-life balance has been a big struggle of going back and forth on getting to saner hours while also having a bunch of mental health stuff going on from not dealing with earlier in life and starting a job search since the company I’m at might fold. I know I’m not alone and I am in a privileged position having employment, but as someone that is easily overwhelmed and struggling mentally, the escape from responsibility is a nice thought in a vacuum.

I am starting the process of seeking help now that I can afford it, but it’s more “work” to do anyways.

I’m sorry for the wall of text, but yeah rationally it’s not wise to just not be employed, though it’s at least a nice daydream that’ll stay that way hopefully.

[–] Soup@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

Nah, it’s ok, and yea that frickin’ sucks. And don’t worry, not being alone also means you that you’ve got people who you can work with when things get tough. A lot of people like to say that someone’s problem not being unique means that they can’t complain but frankly it just means it’s actually a huge problem which very obviously needs to be addressed ASAP.