Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
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This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Hey there =)
It's nice that you may have found yourself! Despite all the anti-trans programming that you have probably endured in your life (I am in my 30s as well and have transitioned for only a year now, so I might now a bit about it too) you have decided to go the first step towards finding out who you are: Questioning the status quo and the erroneous null-hypothesis, that everybody is cis.
It took me years to accept that I am in fact trans femme and even when I started with HRT, I wasn't entirely sure until I felt the changes, both mentally and physically.
Well, do you want to be a girl? Then click here: https://turnmeintoagirl.com/ It's that easy!
Also, I can really recommend Doc Impossible's blog. A couple of choice entries: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/how-to-figure-out-if-youre-trans
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/part-one-a-webcomic
Absolutely you are.
This one is tricky. I thought it would ruin my life and I thought that people would hate me and that randos on the street would threaten me and.. nothing of the sort has happened. Turns out most people are quite normal in the real world in that they do not turn into raging transphobes when they have an actual trans person in their lives. Most people on the street won't even care. It does of course matter where exactly you live. Trust your instincts to keep you safe. Moving to a more progressive area might be necessary.
I had these exact thoughts friend. Turns out, I was just afraid of being ugly, because I am old. Which is of course a heavy heap of internalized misogyny (aka. women can't be >30 and be pretty). Took me a while to clean my head of such non-sense and now I think I am quite attractive. For the first time in my life mind you.
Now I have a question for you!
What do you want us to call you? Do you have a name in mind? What do you think would feel good? =)
EDIT: Be warned, the link still makes me cry it turns out haha
EDIT2: Oh, also watch the movie "I saw the TV glow" and see how that one makes you feel :3 Be warned tho. Very emotional.
Wow what a great response thank you 💜