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NGL, happened to me exactly like that. It was a bit 'unpleasent' as in the unknown can be pretty scary. Like i'm fairly open and especially dont give a fuck what anybody else does. But the first person depiction of same sex... sex was pretty intimate in that game. Yeah, i like to see myself as _progressive _ and open but i'm still an average cis white male gamer. I'm mature enough to admit that it challengend me. I've never seen something like that. It was my first time. Dont get me wrong i still dont have anything against LGBTQ+. In the end i handled it as dumb as it sounds. But tbh i never saw somebody talk about that? Like i still want to be an ally but experiencing _gay _ stuff kinda first hand still was weird.
I mean, nothing wrong with that. I know my dad is an average male, and that he's dating again, doesn't mean I am especially keen to hear the noises coming from upstairs (I live with my dad).
Sex exists in many forms and that's fine, but no one should feel pressured to "experience" or even "enjoy" it in any way if they don't want to. And everyone should feel free to have their own opinions on their experiences.
Fair, but your real life constelation is pretty different to a videogame.
I mean yeah. It was just an example to say it isn't weird to feel uncomfortable with experiencing something you aren't opposed to happening in general. Just the first thing that came to mind, idk
Now imagine yourself as an Asexual person who finds sex in general unpleasant.
Some games will have a streamer mode to avoid most of that. Probably the only useful thing to come from corporate censorship.
Now that I'd support, Ace mode that just disables all that naughty business.
You can still visit sex workers but instead of sex it's just a lecture about how lust is a sin. If you're high enough level they quit sex work and join a cult.
Planescape: Torment had the "intellectual pleasure" brothels, boosting your Intelligence.
That's absolutely glorious.
Why would you intentially seek up a prostitute in a game though?
You can't avoid that mission in clouds afaik. As an asexual person it also stressed me out a bit, but in the end nothing happened.
Buffs and speech options? Sometimes they do that shit in games. Remember GTA prostitutes healed you and if you just killed em after you got your money back.
Makes total sense to me! Being an ally and being progressive has nothing to do with your tastes, preferences and comfort levels.
Just because you didn't like it doesn't mean anything at all about how accepting you are of others choices. If you feel still weird enough that it's bothering you it's OK to talk about it with your friends/family or a professional.
I just avoided both because it wasn't worth the "risk" of getting something I don't want
Eh, i got over it pretty fast. But in the end i was really happy about that experience since in gave me introspection about myself. More than i would ever expect from a fucking shooty video game with light rpg elements.
I can't saw I would have freaked out or anything but wouldn't have been ab ad time to go make some tea or take the dog for a walk depending on the length of it