Be me at 15, obviously depressed, mom: "I'm worried about you hanging out with (my partner at that time), they wear black and are weird, it seems like they are bad company for you!". Me at 35, still struggling with mental health problems and having recently got an ADHD diagnosis w/ autism traits, been to psychotherapy for 3 years because of trauma-related depression and anxiety, yet mom goes: "it must be the guy you hang around with in your teens!" (And has nothing to do with the trauma of being neglected as a child and raised by undiagnosed neurodivergent parents with their own traumas, as well as having lived with undiagnosed AuDHD and dealing with the consequences).

So damn that weird guy who wore black! I wish I had known better! Also can't be AuDHD, probably just want to use drugs or something, everyone has those same problems anyways! And they aren't really problems either, just similar to her "personal traits" or could be that I'm just not trying hard enough!

[–] meliaesc@lemmy.world 4 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

Same. My 9 year old son was diagnosed AuDHD this year. My mother only responded: "Did they misdiagnose my baby?" Ignoring the obvious struggles I had which were clearly genetic, must be my emo phase friends.