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I'm upset that signs like this need to be posted. I've only been to one comicon and took shitloads of unconsented pictures, because I was suffering from hella anxiety and would never have worked up the nerve, and because if I asked everyone I'd have been asking all day. Roadhog+junkyard? Photo. Amazing Link costume? Photo. Green Ranger hanging out of a delorean? Hell yes Photo.
Nothing creepy though. I went out of my way to not point my camera at anyone dressed even remotely sexy, because I dont need the hassle. I also dont need the creepshots. I have the Internet. We have access to more porn than can possibly be consumed in a hundred lifetimes. Im not about to go stealing apples when I live in an orchard.
K... But did you try to playfully spank, or aggressively assault any of those people? Because that's what we're getting at here.
Consent for photographs is important too, and is mentioned in the sign below the "hands off" part.
Congrats on completely missing the point
I see the word hands now. It was the "photo with or of" that drew my attention.
Sorry bud.
Hang your head in shame!
I think the message is a bit vague in context. It is not really about taking candid pics of people in situ. It is saying don't invade a person's space to stand right next to them for a selfie, or demand that they stop what they are doing to pose for your picture. That kind of picture is not your inferred right with some imaginary implied consent. This is the outlier intrusive behavior that must be addressed as odd. There are a lot of these types of entitled people in the world, but they are still a minority.
There are also narcissists that sadistically dress for attention and then believe they have a right to gatekeep who is allowed to look at them. Both groups are people with mental health disorders.
This sign is about lessening the negative emotional impacts others have on people that have gone to extreme and amazing efforts to participate in cosplay. It is about being respectful and appreciative of those people. It is about calling out the worst mental health disorders present at the event.
Photographing people candidly is not the point, but even in that circumstance. Taking unsolicited candid pictures of specific people is as uncouth as a person that talks about their legal rights in a social setting to entitle their behavior. Asking people to take their picture is just good manners.
It might be my autism, but this was completely lost on me and interpreted as "don't take any pictures with people in them without permission"
No. Not autism, just badly phrased as part of a confusing gray area of "When are you allowed to use your phone in public?" online discourse.
There's plenty of people who sincerely believe you don't have any kind of rights to photography of anyone at any place for any reason, without explicit consent. There's others who believe heckling and cat calling is perfectly normal acceptable behavior. And then there's a thousand lines in between.
Standing half naked in a garish "please pay attention to me" costume near a sign that says "Stop taking my picture without asking me first" is confusing to the point of feeling like rage bait.
Maybe it is my autism, but I was specifically addressing the nuances and motivations behind subsets of people. People taking pictures are not all equal. The line of delineation between those taking pictures of a crowd and those taking pictures of the total event are one such difference. No one would argue that taking a picture of the entire convention center floor necessitates asking everyone present in images for their consent, likewise with taking landscape or panoramic pictures of some subset or section of the floor. There will be people closer and further away in such images. This is candid/in-situ photography. Anyone with minimal fundamental logic skills can follow this delineation and arrive at the conclusion that such behavior is nominal. Obviously, this is not the behavior that the sign in the original post was addressing.
So what is the sign addressing. Well the information about touching infers that the sign is about invasive behavior directed at cosplayers. So logic dictates that the information about photography is also about allaying similar disruptive behavior.
What types of behavior related to photography are most invasive. Entitlement is the primary issue. Under the surface of cosplay, there is a deeper layer of subtle servitude that goes unaddressed in the context of broader sociology. In terms of cosplay at an event, the role of entertainer does not imply the inferred subservient class of entertainer and the entertained. The event is intended to be an egalitarian aggregate of entertainers. It is likely that most people are not self aware within this heavily abstracted context. Nonetheless, this class role of entertainers is real and underpins all of the social interactions. In societies like ancient Rome, entertainers were a recognized social class.
When anyone acts entitled with photography or demands a cosplayer's time or attention, they are effectively forcing the role of subservience.
When people talk about how humans or some animals display complex social behavior, this kind of subtle or unspoken complexity is what they are referring to. Even when the entitled person demanding time or attention is a fellow cosplayer, within the same unspoken social caste, they are still imposing a subtle form of hierarchy and subservience. All humans engage on these layers of interaction with various degrees of self awareness. You did it when you replied. I did it in my original comment, and I am doing it now, some in ways that I am aware, and in many ways I am not.
The actual invasive behaviors about photography and interaction that this sign intends to address are the demeaning and emotionally taxing interactions that are likely to have a short and long term negative impact on cosplayers. The sign is short and anecdotal. It cannot address the subtle nuances of sociology that most people cannot grasp. Concepts of social hierarchy, complexity, and castes are are beyond the comprehension of most entitled people that the sign is intended to allay.
If you demand a person's time and obsequiousness in this context, you are demanding subservience. The sign is stating the egalitarian nature of the gathering, and that no one is expected to acquiesce in subservience. It is stating you must be respectfully egalitarian in this subculture.
This is about touching people, not taking pictures. I assume taking pictures of cosplayers is generally not a problem?
The sign says:
Oh weird, it's worded a bit weird. Usually all these events have a huge clause that it's a public space and your footage can be used and published.
Guess it only counts for corporations
Photos of an event with people in them are different than photos of a person.
It's not illegal to take pictures in public areas.
Sure. But that's missing the crux of the point, which is confusing given the context (a picture of a girl posing for a picture) and the caveats (posing/touching, not just snapping a picture of a crowd).
It's a mixed message.
I read it closely and I agree. Men will take it as don't get near don't, move. Women will take it as any minor annoyance counts as SH. And both miss the nuance of it being that you can snap public areas, but no one owes you a touch or personal picture.
That is a weird essentialist assumption.
Everything I stated was a fact, not one word in that sentence was a fact.
It's a bit of a gray area if they are indecent (pictures) and/or if the event is admission-only (which a lot are).