incredibly toxic

If this is how you feel about modern medicine you have zero standing to comment on divergent brain structures and their inherent changes in biochemical processes. There are plentiful evidence-based, peer reviewed research papers written by curious, highly specialized doctors on the impact genetics and fetal development have on differing brain structures that lead to various behavioral, emotional, and mental conditions you diminish.

Yes, finding community that shares your sentiments is absolutely good for you; I myself experienced this recently at a workshop on organizing labor and community. While that feeling of solidarity was sorely needed and positively effected my mood, it had zero impact on the biochemical processes and structural differences in my brain that lead to my various executive and mood dysfunctions.

The best way to treat and compensate for those dysfunctions is via consistent, appropriate medication and therapy from medical professionals. Those professionals have put blood, sweat and tears to get where they are because they want to help you. The private industries surrounding health care are absolutely toxic, zero argument there.

You may get frustrated trying to fight for treatment for yourself, but I'd wager that frustration pales in comparison to the frustration felt by the doctors who have to fight against insurance to properly treat their entire population of patients. Finding the right therapist and health care team is far too difficult and expensive, yes. The benefits of getting your shit sorted out now rather than later, however, are immense.

Mistrusting evidence-backed knowledge because your idealogically-driven desire to tear everything down feels better broadcasts your fear of introspection and lack of forethought. How do you expect to rebuild a healthier society from the ashes of our current capitalist hellhole if you yourself aren't healthy? How do you think your compatriots would react if you start spouting the same denial of modern medicine and, by extension, the scientific method as a whole? That's the bullshit my 'centrist' ex-friend spouted in between cheering on the dismantling of the Department of Education and complaining about the 'transgenderism indoctrination' happening in schools. Anti-intellectualism and distrust of expertise are key components of the conservative ideology and I'd advise you to examine how you've come to subscribe to them.

Based on the workshop I attended, many of the compatriots you want to stand with are queer and neurodivergent. If you are neurotypical you're going to have a hard time finding solidarity and community amongst people you insist just need to revolt against society rather than radically accepting their existence and working alongside them. If you are neurodivergent but have not developed tools and skills to compensate for your dysfunctions you won't be nearly as useful or instrumental in the revolution you dream of.