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[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 26 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (16 children)

No, it's more a stance of complete and utter disagreement. This is the third experience that I've had in as many weeks in an NSFW request on a post. The first one I disagreed with slightly, but could completely understand the request and also where they were coming from. The second one I disagreed with could understand it a bit less but could still see it to some extent. The word foreskin being something that needs to be marked as NSFW is, for me, ridiculous. I have deleted posts in the past instead of marking them as NSFW when requested and I think I'm just going to stop posting to this community instead. Partially because I don't agree with this. Mostly because every single request so far has had me thinking that I don't even understand what this community is trying to do.

I do not think anything less of the moderators, I am not angry at anyone here, I am not trying to insult anyone, I am not trying to push ill will in any way whatsoever. But. I am more confused in trying to figure out what to post here than I am anywhere else on Lemmy because the tone seems to be inconsistent. Whether that is through certain posts being marked as NSFW and other ones not, or certain comments being made by moderators that feel like they should apply to the same rules, but don't. A moderator made a post within the last hour that has the words testicles written in it. That is not marked NSFW. So why does the word foreskin require it?

I'm just confused and I don't really want to post somewhere where I'm constantly confused. I think I'm done with this community.

[–] lenya@piefed.blahaj.zone 1 points 6 days ago (6 children)

I myself don't think stretching one's foreskin over a Nintendo DS is a very "safe for work" idea. Context matters.

It's fair to point out inconsistencies in enforcement of the rule if you notice them though, not something I can comment on.

[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (4 children)

I myself don’t think stretching one’s foreskin over a Nintendo DS is a very “safe for work” idea. Context matters.

No. It doesn't. The NSFW tag is supposed to be applied to something that is visually NSFW, not a concept or idea that when manifested inside of ones head becomes NSFW. The issue at hand is whether or not the visual information depicted rises to the level where an NSFW tag is needed. In my opinion? It does not. It also DEFINITELY does not when one mod is asking for the tag and another mod is doing the thing that would seemingly require that tag but doesn't. That leaves me, as a poster, incredibly confused and not sure how the hell the rules are supposed to be applied. Combined with me repeatedly bringing the level of NSFW stuff in my posts down while seeing other posts go RAMPANT with utter rape jokes?

No.

Absolutely not. I'm not posting here anymore.

[–] Stez827@sh.itjust.works -2 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I am. I'm sorry that my insistence of stating my opinion in a discussion about opinions offends you.

[–] Stez827@sh.itjust.works 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Who said it offended me? I don't really care you're just writing essays when no one is mad at you just asking for it to be marked nsfw as it is over the line to show up while scrolling for example at work

[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

My guy just because it requires you to be angry in order to put that much effort into a post doesn't mean that that's required of me. That was like two minutes and I barely noticed.

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