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hey, its ok. no one is mad at you. you dont need to defend or justify that you didnt think about it yourself. you can just tag the post and everyone will be happy. no harm done :)
No, it's more a stance of complete and utter disagreement. This is the third experience that I've had in as many weeks in an NSFW request on a post. The first one I disagreed with slightly, but could completely understand the request and also where they were coming from. The second one I disagreed with could understand it a bit less but could still see it to some extent. The word foreskin being something that needs to be marked as NSFW is, for me, ridiculous. I have deleted posts in the past instead of marking them as NSFW when requested and I think I'm just going to stop posting to this community instead. Partially because I don't agree with this. Mostly because every single request so far has had me thinking that I don't even understand what this community is trying to do.
I do not think anything less of the moderators, I am not angry at anyone here, I am not trying to insult anyone, I am not trying to push ill will in any way whatsoever. But. I am more confused in trying to figure out what to post here than I am anywhere else on Lemmy because the tone seems to be inconsistent. Whether that is through certain posts being marked as NSFW and other ones not, or certain comments being made by moderators that feel like they should apply to the same rules, but don't. A moderator made a post within the last hour that has the words testicles written in it. That is not marked NSFW. So why does the word foreskin require it?
I'm just confused and I don't really want to post somewhere where I'm constantly confused. I think I'm done with this community.
I am not a super active mod so I did not notice the other post. I definitely needs an NSFW tag. I do agree that a clear and consistent NSFW tag criteria should be communicated and applied and I will bring it up. Some pretty spicy posts have gotten through untagged and tagging is so low effort that there really is no reason not to do it.
Then remove the post. The word 'foreskin' being marked as NSFW while the word 'testicles' is posted by another moderator is genuinely the line for me. Y'all aren't consistent amongst yourselves.
I also take quite a bit of issue with you saying that it requires no effort to mark it as NSFW, therefore I should have done it. The ease at which I could have done it is irrelevant. My issue comes from the fact that you guys are not consistent with asking things to be marked to NSFW and that some of the requests made therein make absolutely no sense. For example, if the word for skin is something that needs to be marked as NSFW, does the word fuck? What about shit?
I can get marking a post as NSFW if the entire post is a chastity cage. I think it's fucking stupid asking me to do so when all of the chastity cages look nothing like a chastity cage and look like Pokemon, which was the entire point of the joke but whatever. I understand a little less when the chastity cage is very tiny and is lined up against a bunch of other monopoly pieces. But I cannot fathom any position in which the word foreskin would have to be marked as NSFW, while the rest of the posts on this community would be allowed. literally cannot come up with any situation in which the word foreskin in and of itself needs to be marked as NSFW while the rest of the community is allowed to run rampant with profanity.
This level of micromanagement is bothersome. It also leaves me in a position where I do not know what you guys as moderators want because you have too many cooks in the kitchen. You're not able to be consistent with the things that you want this community to do, which means that I as a poster, do not know what you want, which means I as a poster will no longer be posting on this community anymore.
things are heating up in the Nintendo DS foreskin fandom
I myself don't think stretching one's foreskin over a Nintendo DS is a very "safe for work" idea. Context matters.
It's fair to point out inconsistencies in enforcement of the rule if you notice them though, not something I can comment on.
Are you all ignoring the fact that the title of NSFW posts is not blurred? The image is not NSFW by itself, the title is. It's pointless to tag that.
If you want to tag it because of people that filter NSFW posts, I disagree with using the tag as a catch all, we need more tags.
No. It doesn't. The NSFW tag is supposed to be applied to something that is visually NSFW, not a concept or idea that when manifested inside of ones head becomes NSFW. The issue at hand is whether or not the visual information depicted rises to the level where an NSFW tag is needed. In my opinion? It does not. It also DEFINITELY does not when one mod is asking for the tag and another mod is doing the thing that would seemingly require that tag but doesn't. That leaves me, as a poster, incredibly confused and not sure how the hell the rules are supposed to be applied. Combined with me repeatedly bringing the level of NSFW stuff in my posts down while seeing other posts go RAMPANT with utter rape jokes?
No.
Absolutely not. I'm not posting here anymore.
Bro you need to chill out
I am. I'm sorry that my insistence of stating my opinion in a discussion about opinions offends you.
Who said it offended me? I don't really care you're just writing essays when no one is mad at you just asking for it to be marked nsfw as it is over the line to show up while scrolling for example at work
My guy just because it requires you to be angry in order to put that much effort into a post doesn't mean that that's required of me. That was like two minutes and I barely noticed.
i think the logic is, that when someone fells something is not safe for work, they will either mark it as such or request that it be marked as such. as i said, you don't have to justify that you did not think of it. you didn't know in advance and you are not expected to. all that is expected, is that when asked, you will mark your post as nsfw. just accommodate for the unique needs of the unique people around you, when it comes up.
so please dont delete your posts or stop posting, just mark your posts as nsfw when asked to and everything is fine :3
No. I am not blindly obedient to requests. I am not a bot. I am a human being with my own opinions and the opinion at the moment is that the request to mark this as NSFW is ridiculous. I am not catering to the 3 people who think that foreskin is such an offensive word that it cannot be seen in public. If the mods are insistent that this post requires an NSFW tag then they can remove it. I am done deleting it but I am also done posting to this community. Multiple mods giving me multiple requests with multiple consistencies leaving me WILDLY confused. It's not worth my effort to continue posting here when I'm going to have to go back and change my own criteria for posting to this community every week.
ok, leave i suppose, if you dont want to stay. i hope that you will learn to give more care and empathy to the people around you. it is not blind obedience to accomodate others, especially when it comes at no personal cost. just trust them, even if you don't understand it.
marking the post as nsfw would have taken you seconds, but instead you wrote multiple long comments ranting against it.
The issue was not the tag. The issue was the inconsistent request and application of it. I'm sorry that you couldn't recognize that despite those multiple long comments being written exclusively to say that.