trans and nonbinary people (and cis if you apply!), how did you pick your name? (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 year ago by thumbtack@beehaw.org to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org

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just interested in hearing peoples stories for how y’all have chosen your new names! doesn’t have to be particularly profound or interesting really, i just like hearing about others experiences.

i’m actually planning on changing my own soon socially despite being cis, and just really like hearing how others came to find their names, as well as am curious about if anyone had to go through more than one to find what’s right for them. i figured this would be the best community to talk about the topic even if i’m not trans :)

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[-] FlowerTree@pawb.social 9 points 1 year ago

The story of how I got my name was both interesting and mundane.

I played a videogame named Stardew Valley and created a female character there. I don't really think about it much when choosing her name, I just wanted a plant-related feminine name so I chose Jasmine.

Many weeks later, my egg cracked and I randomly chose Jasmine as my new name. Later that day, I realized that the name was the same as my Stardew character.

[-] LennethAegis@kbin.social 5 points 1 year ago

That's cool that the name was already on your mind. Like you were already sorting your identity on the inside before you even realized it.

[-] FlowerTree@pawb.social 3 points 1 year ago

It's not so much already on my mind.

I didn't spend too much effort when choosing the name while Playing Stardew; it was the first name that clicked, and never in a million year I'd think to use that name for myself.

But I oversimplified it. Truth is, I also had quite a few other names on my mind when choosing my name specifically, Jasmine's one of them. It took me a week before I settled on Jasmine and even more weeks before I was fully confident it's the right name.

[-] LennethAegis@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

Changing your name is a big decision. No shame in work-shopping it. I still have a list of 10 names I wanted to pick for myself for various reason. I even tried one out for a few weeks, but said nah.